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Air Trays for Caskets – Complete Guide

Introduction

Sometimes it is necessary to transport the body of a loved one from one state to another or even farther. Most often the shipping is done by air. Whether the deceased is placed in a casket or not, the body is required to be placed in a special shipping container.

This special container for transport is called an air tray. It is specifically designed to hold and protect bodies during transport. 

In this article, we explain the details about air trays for caskets. We also included a list of recommended units in case you are looking for quality air trays at affordable prices. 

What Is an Air Tray?

An air tray is a shipping container used for transporting casketed remains. It can be made of wood, cardboard, a combination of the two, or other lightweight materials.

The air tray protects and conceals the casket. It is required by airline companies and is made to meet the handling requirements. 

Here are the requirements for an air tray container:

  • Six (6) handles for ease in moving
  • An identification envelope, window or insert to secure shipping documents
  • Orientation label (“HEAD”) to assist in loading and unloading

An air tray is air-tight and leak-proof for health and safety concerns. Air trays also go into the cargo hold of the airplane and are secured by strong nylon straps attached to the tray. 

Air Tray vs. Combo Tray

There are generally two types of transfer containers that are used in shipping human remains: air trays and combo trays. Airlines require these two for the legal transportation of human remains. 

How are they different?

Connecticut Casket Company Air TrayConnecticut Casket Company Combination Tray
Source: Connecticut Casket Company

Air Tray 

  • Meant to encase caskets transported by air. 
  • This transfer container has a wooden tray with a cardboard cover. 
  • It also has strap handles made of nylon for better handling.

Combination (Combo) Tray

  • Specifically designed for the air transport of human remains that are not placed in caskets.
  • This transfer container has a box made of particle board and a tray and cover made of cardboard. Construction is meant to satisfy air shipping regulations.
  • Made to be strong enough to ensure the protection of the human remains.

The construction of both air trays and combination trays follow the stringent guidelines established by the Air Transport Association (ATA).

While air trays and combo trays are usually made of wood and cardboard, there is another shipping container type for human remains that is made of metal. This is the Ziegler case casket. Ziegler caskets are mainly used for shipping human remains overseas. 

Air Tray vs. Cremation Tray

Connecticut Casket Company Air TrayConnecticut Casket Company Cremation Tray
Source: Connecticut Casket Company

When browsing for air trays, you may find cremation trays in a similar catalog. Although both are virtually made of the same materials, air trays and cremation trays are slightly different.

Cremation trays are used for the cremation of human remains. When cremating a body, it needs to be placed in a rigid and combustible container. It can either be a cardboard casket or a simple cremation container. 

How Much Does an Air Tray Cost?

Air trays have a wholesale cost range between $60 and $175. This is the cost a funeral home will pay for the tray.

If you are a consumer looking for an air tray, airline companies themselves usually offer it as part of the transport cost.

It is most common that the cost of an air tray is included in the package when you pay for transporting remains. This will include the shipping fee, paperwork, service fees, etc.

(You also have the option to source an air tray from a retailer or a funeral home directly but it is less common.)

Air Tray Sizes

Air trays are available in many different sizes. The standard sizes available are adult, oversize, youth, child, and infant. 

Just like casket sizes, the dimensions of an air tray are meant to fit different sized bodies across different ages. The adult air tray fits the average-sized casket and body. The same applies to other air tray sizes.

How Heavy Is an Air Tay?

An air tray weighs around 50 to 58 pounds, depending on size. If the air tray is smaller, expect that it will be much lighter than an adult and oversize air trays. Compared to caskets and Zeigler case caskets, an air tray is not too heavy because they are made of lightweight materials.

The maximum weight capacity of an air tray is up to 1000 pounds. The large maximum capacity is meant to accommodate both the weight of the casket and the weight of the body. For scale, the average casket weight is 200 pounds and the average weight of an adult man is about 198 pounds.

Recommended Air Trays 

If you are searching for an air tray, here are some of our recommended options. These recommended air trays are available in average sizes. But all recommended companies offer different sizes for their air trays unless otherwise stated.

For the Consumer

If you are a consumer looking to buy an air tray, chances are you wouldn’t be able to buy directly from a manufacturer or retailer. This is because the cost of air trays is usually already included in a package offered for shipping human remains. 

For instance, if you want to use the services of a funeral service provider or a shipping provider when transporting the deceased, they usually offer packages that include charges for shipping, basic services of the funeral director and staff, paperwork, embalming, transportation to the airport, and the air tray unit.  

This is why when you try to browse online for air trays for sale, almost all of the manufacturers and distributors only cater to funeral professionals. 

For the Retailer

If you are a retailer or a funeral professional looking for affordable and high-quality air trays, here are a few recommended manufacturers and distributors:

Lynch Supply: Deluxe Wood Base Air Tray Unit

Dimensions

Outside Dimensions: 88″ L x 32″ W x 25″ H 

Inside Dimensions: 85″ L x 30″ W x 25″ H

Construction

The air tray has a plywood base measuring 1” x 4” and ⅜”. It has a white double wall and corrugated hood. This air tray has 4 corner protectors and it is water-resistant. 

Inclusions

Each air tray comes with a full-size casket cover. It has 6 nylon webbing handles for carrying, 2 of which are strapped outside with high-impact buckles to secure the tray in place. 

Lynch Supply offers air trays and combo trays in different sizes including youth and oversize. It is also IPPC approved for international shipping.

Price

$84.25


Starmark: Air Shipping Tray

Dimensions

Outside Dimensions: 87” L x 32” W x 23” H

Inside Dimensions: 83.75” x 22.75” H

Weight: 58 lbs.

Construction

Starmark’s air tray has a lid and liner that is made of corrugated fiberboard. It has strong reinforced corners and is 3rd party tested to carry up to 1000 lbs. 

Inclusions

This air tray has strong nylon straps for easy carrying. It includes a casket cover bag and packing slip envelope to secure shipping documents. 

According to Starmark, their air tray has a Heat Treated & Bug stamp so it is certified for international shipping.  

Price

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Affordable Funeral Supply: Wood-Based Air Tray

Dimensions

Not stated

Construction

This air tray has a sturdy 1”x4” base made of oriented strand board (OSB board) or plywood. The air tray also has a double-wall corrugated outer box with the labels “Head”, “Date”, and “Destination” to assist in loading and unloading. To save space, this air tray folds to 4” deep when shipped and stored.

Inclusions

For easy lifting and carrying, this air tray has 8 strap handles measuring 2” wide. Each air tray includes a plastic bag used to shroud the casket.

Affordable Funeral Supply offers many sizes for air trays and combo trays including an infant, child youth, adult, and oversize. They also offer Ziegler cases.

Price

$64 (On their website, this price is listed for a minimum of 10 orders. You can call them directly if you want to order smaller quantities.)

FAQ

Can I use an air tray for a body that is not placed in a casket? 

No. Air trays are only meant for casketed remains. You can use a combo tray if the remains are not in a casket . Combo trays are specifically designed to encase and protect non-casketed remains.

Is an air tray different from a cremation tray?

Air trays and a cremation trays differ in purpose. They are both made of the same type of lightweight materials such as wood and cardboard, but air trays are designed to be used as shipping containers for caskets while cremation trays are made to be containers for bodies during incineration.

Do air trays come in different sizes?

Yes. Just like caskets, air trays are available in different sizes such as adult, oversize, youth, child, and infant. These sizes are meant to accommodate different sizes of bodies across different ages.

Can I buy an air tray directly online?

Yes and no. Online sellers cater to funeral professionals. If you are a retailer or you work for a funeral home, you can order wholesale air trays online. For consumers, the air tray is usually included in the transport package provided by the airline or funeral professional. Most online retailers offer high-quality and affordable air trays that can be shipped across the US.

Conclusion

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Clothes for Burial & Funeral Gowns

Introduction

“A picture is worth a thousand words,” Henrik Ibsen.

The final viewing of the deceased will leave a lasting impression. Obviously survivors will have many memories, but the last visual will be especially memorable. Burial clothes and overall appearance deserve careful consideration.

You should make every effort to present your love one in a way that captures their spirit and the way they lived their life.

Here are some ideas and things to consider while choosing burial clothes for your loved one.

Traditional Burial Clothes and Funeral Gowns

Dresses and Gowns

Traditionally, deceased men are dressed in formal attire such as suits. Women are dressed in funeral gowns or dresses. Funeral gowns for deceased women, also called burial gowns, commonly have long sleeves and high necklines. 

Suits and dresses are considered traditional for burial clothing, but there aren’t any rules governing what the deceased should wear. As times have changed, the world is more casual than ever. So the traditional dress may not apply. It is up to you to decide what is appropriate and determine what is most fitting for your loved one.

Who Chooses Burial Clothes for the Loved One?

Families usually provide the burial clothing for their loved one. This responsibility usually falls on the person closest to the deceased. This is usually the spouse or closest living relative. 

Funeral directors may also provide the surviving family with a selection of burial clothes and funeral gowns. This can be a convenient option, especially if the deceased has recently changed weight and doesn’t have clothes that fit.

If you are a family member, the funeral director will help coordinate the burial clothes. Be sure to express your wishes and intents.

How to Choose Burial Clothes

During a funeral, the body is commonly displayed for viewing in either a full-couch or half-couch casket. Half couch is most common, where the deceased is visible from the torso up. Because the viewing will serve as the mourners’ final chance to see the person who died, the deceased must be presented in his or her finest look.

Here are some important steps in picking the final outfit for your loved one:

Consider Your Loved One’s Final Wishes

The first thing to consider in choosing burial clothing is the final wishes of the deceased. They may have left a statement in their will about how they wanted to be dressed when they die, or they may have told a family member about their final outfit choice. 

In case the deceased has left instruction on what clothes to bury them in, simply dress them according to what they specified. This makes deciding on a burial outfit much easier.

If not instructions were left to follow, did they have a favorite? It is up to you to decide what you think would be the best outfit. Sounds obvious, but a peek into their closet may provide inspiration.

Consider the Personality of the Deceased

Be inspired by their life.

Base your loved one’s burial clothes according to what they would usually wore when they were alive. Did they have a favorite color? Did they dress in a particular style? Think about their occupation, affiliations, hobbies, and interests. What image do you have of your missed loved one and what would truly represent how they lived?

For example, if your loved one was a member of a sports team, you might dress them in their sports jersey. The same thing applies to veterans who are often buried in military uniform.  

Even if there is no strong affiliation, you can simply match their outfit according to their style and preference. If you choose from their own wardrobe it will be the most accurate image and will help the mourners to remember the deceased fondly.

If you were close to the person who died, you will likely already have an idea of what they would prefer. Burial clothing does not have to be traditional. It will be most authentic if it comes directly from the person’s wardrobe

Keep It Appropriate

You have some degree of freedom in choosing the burial clothes of your loved one, but you still have to keep the outfit appropriate for the funeral service. If you are considering an accessory or an outfit choice that is controversial in any way, you may want to consult more family or a funeral director just to get consensus on what is appropriate.

Keeping the burial clothing appropriate also means that it should match the age and lifestyle of the deceased. Here are some guidelines to think about. 

  • Dress younger people in more casual clothes. They seldom wear suits and dresses, so a nice shirt and a pair of jeans could also be suitable for a funeral.
  • Older people can be dressed in their usual clothing. For instance, if your female loved one has been sick for a while and had always been dressed in a nightgown, that could be an appropriate burial outfit.
  • For babies, some charities and companies create handmade baby funeral clothes. These are available in different sizes to fit tiny infants as well.

Other Burial Clothing & Accessories

Here are some clothing items that complete the burial outfit of your loved one:

Shoes

Leather Shoes for Funeral

Wearing shoes for the deceased is optional. Some families want their loved ones to have shoes because they like knowing that the deceased is fully dressed. The person who died may also have a favorite pair of shoes that would be meaningful if they were buried in them.

For a couple reasons shoes may not be worn at all. The feet probably won’t be seen, especially for half-couch casket viewings. Additionally, putting shoes on the deceased is difficult. The feet become rigid and hard to bend. In this case socks alone will work.

Undergarments

When choosing an outfit, make sure that it is complete including underwear. Funeral directors will not dress the deceased without underwear. This is because you want your loved one’s outfit choice to be dignified. If they always wore undergarments in their life, there is no reason not to dress them with one in their death.

Jewelry

Ring

Accessorizing the deceased with pieces of jewelry is also optional. Some people may have wanted to be buried in pieces of jewelry that were sentimental to them such as wedding and engagement rings. They may also be motivated by beliefs that they want to carry with them in their afterlife the personal possessions that were important to them on earth.

However, make sure that you only include pieces of jewelry that you are okay to part with forever. Even if you think it would be good to let the deceased have their jewelry with them in their burial, later on, you might realize that it would have been more meaningful to give to a child or grandchild as an heirloom. 

In this case, the deceased can still wear the jewelry during the wake or visitation. Any special items can then be removed before the burial. For cremation, the jewelry will have to be removed anyway since non-combustible items are not allowed inside the incinerator.

For further reading about the selection, read this article.

Important Considerations for Burial Clothes

When deciding on burial clothes, there are other important things to keep in mind. You also have to consider their religion, as well as the method of their final disposition.

Religious Requirements

Religion is another important consideration to think about when dressing the deceased. Some religions have dress and hairstyle requirements. It is best practice to check with the church or religious leaders about the specific rules for burial clothes.

Here are some general guidelines for different religions:

Buddhist

In Buddhism, the deceased are supposed to be dressed in everyday clothes and not in fancy clothes. Theravada Buddhists usually dress the deceased in white to symbolize virtue.

Muslim 

In Islam, there is no wake, viewing, or visitation since the burial must take place soon after death. The body is washed three times until it is entirely clean and then covered in a white sheet by family members. For women, their hair must be braided into three braids. After being covered in a sheet, a female Muslim is clothed in a sleeveless dress and a head veil.

Jewish

For Jewish people, the body is covered in simple and plain shrouds called tachrichim, typically made of white cotton or linen. A tallit, or prayer shawl, covers men and sometimes women, and both wear either their normal daily attire or shrouds.

Catholic

For Catholics (especially open casket viewings), the deceased is usually dressed in formal wear.

Hindu

For Hindus, bodies are to be cremated. Until the cremation, the deceased will stay in the family’s home which usually takes a day or two after death. The body is dressed in simple clothing, usually white after it is cleaned. Unmarried young women, amd married women whose husband is alive, will be clothed in red or yellow dresses. Traditionally, the bodies of Hindus are wrapped in a white sheet.

Cremation

Clothes worn during cremation need special consideration since not all types of clothing can be cremated. Some parts like metallic buttons, zippers, and snaps are not allowed to be worn during cremation because of safety and environmental concerns. Materials that are made of metal, plastic, and glass and some clothes made from synthetic materials may be hazardous to burn. The cremation technician will guide you in specifics.

If there is a viewing prior to cremation, some clothes may have to be removed by the funeral director and returned to you. This includes jewelry since they can be unsafe inside the cremation machine.

Green Funeral

Clothes for green and natural burials must be biodegradable. The clothing must also be made from untreated natural fibers, such as cotton, wool, or linen.

Artificial materials are not allowed such as elastic waistbands, nylon threads, synthetic linings, buttons, and plastic or metal zips. These guidelines are usually imposed by natural burial grounds and cemeteries because of environmental concerns.

How Burial Clothes Fit

The clothes that you choose for your loved one may not fit them anymore especially if they lost or gained weight due to sickness. Also, rigor mortis or the stiffening of the body after death might make it difficult to move the body around and adjust the clothing to make it fit perfectly.

In this case, funeral directors may have to cut the back of the clothes to make it easier to dress the body. This will not be noticeable. The technicians are very skilled at presenting the body in the best possible light.

Manipulating the clothes helps create a natural appearance for your loved one while being laid in the casket. If you do not want the clothes to be cut, tell your funeral director. They are extremely accommodating. 

FAQ

What clothes is a body supposed to be buried in?

Traditionally, the deceased is buried in a suit or dress. (But this varies for different religions.) You can also dress your loved one according to what they wore when they were alive. Dressing them in clothes that fit their style and preference and captures their personality is most suitable. 

What is a funeral gown?

A funeral gown is a dress meant for deceased women. It usually has a high neckline and long sleeves. Funeral gowns are also typically made of easily adjustable materials.

Is it required to be buried in a suit or dress?

No. Although suits and dresses are commonly used for burials, there are no rules regarding the clothes a deceased person should be buried in. If you think a fancy suit or dress does not fit the personality of your loved one, choose normal clothes that best memorialize them.

Does the deceased have to wear undergarments?

Yes. Funeral directors always put on undergarments on bodies for the dignity of the deceased. Make sure to include one when choosing an outfit for your loved one.

Do you have to put shoes on the deceased?

No. Shoes are optional. Some families do not include shoes and just opt for socks since they are not usually seen during a viewing. (Sometimes shoes are difficult to put on because the feet are swollen or stiff.)

Who picks the burial clothing for the deceased?

Families usually choose the burial clothes for the deceased, especially the spouse or the closest family relative. Funeral directors may also provide burial clothing in case the family is not able to supply them. 

Can the deceased choose their own burial clothes?

Yes. The deceased may have left instructions specifying the clothes they want to be buried in. They may also have communicated their final wishes to a family member. In this case, it is easiest to grant the wishes of your loved one. 

Do burial clothes have to be cut?

Usually, yes. The clothes have to be cut in the back to fit on the body. Cutting the clothes also help in creating a natural appearance for the deceased while lying in the casket. 

Conclusion

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Best Memorial Card Poems & Prayers

Introduction

Memorial cards are made to honor the deceased and make a thoughtful keepsake for those who attend the service. The card may include an image of the deceased and some relevant details of their life. They are also a good place to include a poem or prayer that pays tribute to your loved one.

Here is a collection of poems and prayers that might be right for your memorial card or inspire you to write your own.

About Memorial Cards

Roses and text that reads "In loving memory"

Memorial cards are usually disbursed at memorial services or other ceremonies such as the celebration of life.

They can also be mailed to those who were not able to attend the service in person. The card will act as a personal memento of the deceased.

Memorial cards usually include a portrait of the deceased, a brief biography, and a scripture passage, prayer, or poem. Memorial cards are typically religious or spiritual, but they can also be designed with secular themes and personalized in any way that the family wishes.

In general, memorial cards are usually small, laminated, and double-sided. Because of the small size, text is limited and memorial poems and prayers are usually short.

The front side features:

  • Photo of the deceased
  • Name
  • Date of birth
  • Date of death

Other tributes can be found on the reverse side such as:

  • Eulogy
  • Message
  • Verse
  • Poem
  • Prayer

Memorial Cards vs Funeral Cards

Memorial cards are also referred to as funeral cards. However, the latter is also used to refer to the funeral program which is lengthier and provides the order of service for the funeral.

Funeral cards can be made into booklets or pamphlets depending on the extent of the content that will be included. Funeral cards also tend to be more devotional because they list the religious rites in celebration of the deceased.

We also have a collection of funeral poems and funeral hymns, both of which can be included in memorial cards, or read or sung during the service.

Memorial Card Poems

Old-Fashioned Typewriter

As we mentioned, memorial cards can have secular themes. The poems you can include in a memorial card can be non-religious and personal to the deceased or meaningful to your relationship with them.

Keep in mind that the memorial card will be distributed to many different mourners. Consider selecting a poem that will easily resonate with other people as well.

Choose poems that have some connection or representation of the deceased. This will help people share the sentiment, remember the life and celebrate the memory of your loved one.

Lastly, choose shorter poems. These cards are usually wallet sized so space for text is limited. You might want to include a poem that can easily fit into the dimensions of the card.

When selecting poems, common styles or themes to choose from are joy, encouragement, hope, inspiration, remembrance or mourning and healing itself.

Poems about Sorrow

To Daffodils by Robert Herrick

Fair Daffodils, we weep to see
You haste away so soon;
As yet the early-rising sun
Has not attain’d his noon.
Stay, stay,
Until the hasting day
Has run
But to the even-song;
And, having pray’d together, we
Will go with you along.
We have short time to stay, as you,
We have as short a spring;
As quick a growth to meet decay,
As you, or anything.
We die
As your hours do, and dry
Away,
Like to the summer’s rain;
Or as the pearls of morning’s dew,
Ne’er to be found again.

Source: Poetry Foundation

Death Has Parted Us by Kelly Roper

Death has parted us my dear,
Something no mortal could do.
And I am left behind now,
Feeling oh so lost and blue.

No more will I rise each morning,
To see your dear, sweet face,
To hear you say good morning,
And fold me in your embrace.

We’ve kissed our final good night,
And we’ve said our last goodbye.
And now there’s nothing for me to do
But remember you my love, and cry.

She is Gone by David Harkins

You can shed tears that she is gone,
or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her,
or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her only that she is gone,
or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back.
Or you can do what she’d want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

Poems about Missing Loved Ones

There is No Light Without a Dawning by Helen Steiner Rice

No winter without a spring
And beyond the dark horizon
Our hearts will once more sing ….
For those who leave us for a while
Have only gone away
Out of a restless, care worn world
Into a brighter day

You Meant So Much by Cassie Mitchell

You meant so much to all of us
You were special and that’s no lie
You brightened up the darkest day
And the cloudiest sky

Your smile alone warmed hearts
Your laugh was like music to hear
I would give absolutely anything
To have you well and standing near

Not a second passes
When you’re not on our minds
Your love we will never forget
The hurt will ease in time

Many tears I have seen and cried
They have all poured out like rain
I know that you are happy now
And no longer in any pain.

Someone So Dearly Loved by Jacqueline Ryan

Someone so dearly loved
So popular with his friends
We should not cry forever,
For this is not the end.

His memory lives amongst us,
Times we both laughed and cried,
I cannot bare to lose him,
But one day, we all must die

I hear his voice within me,
and his funny little laugh
So many things remind me;
Of times that are now gone past.

I knew of no-one who hated him,
He was the apple of every eye
Any conflicts, we all once had
are now by the by.

Memorial Poems about Hope

Warm Summer Sun by Mark Twain

Warm summer sun,
Shine kindly here,
Warm southern wind,
Blow softly here.
Green sod above,
Lie light, lie light.
Good night, dear heart,
Good night, good night.

Source: Poets.org

Treasured Seasons

For everything there is an appointed season,
And a time for everything under heaven-
A time for sharing, a time for caring.
A time for loving, a time for giving;
A time for remembering, a time for parting.
You have made everything beautiful in its time
For everything You do remains forever.

A Song Of Living by Amelia Josephine Burr

Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.
I have sent up my gladness on wings, to be lost in the blue of the sky.
I have run and leaped with the rain, I have taken the wind to my breast.
My cheeks like a drowsy child to the face of the earth I have pressed.
Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.
I have kissed young love on the lips, I have heard his song to the end,
I have struck my hand like a seal in the loyal hand of a friend.
I have known the peace of heaven, the comfort of work done well.
I have longed for death in the darkness and risen alive out of hell.
Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.
I gave a share of my soul to the world, when and where my course is run.
I know that another shall finish the task I surely must leave undone.
I know that no flower, nor flint was in vain on the path I trod.
As one looks on a face through a window, through life I have looked on God,
Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

Source: Poem Hunter

Poems about Encouragement

Afterglow by Helen Lowrie Marshall

I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one,
I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done.
I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days.
I’d like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun
Of happy memories that I leave when life is done.

Just a Memory Away by Rita S. Beer

I’m no longer by your side, But there’s no need to weep;
I’ve left sweet recollections, I’m hoping you would keep.
Eternal joy and memories Stay in our hearts forever,
Strengthening our special bond that parting cannot sever.
Now it’s time to journey on, So let your faith be strong,
For I am in a better place…I’m home where I belong.
And if times of loneliness Bring sorrow and dismay,
Don’t despair, for I am there…Just a Memory Away

One At Rest by Unknown

Think of me as one at rest,
for me you should not weep
I have no pain no troubled thoughts
for I am just asleep
The living thinking me that was,
is now forever still
And life goes on without me now,
as time forever will.

If your heart is heavy now
because I’ve gone away
Dwell not long upon it friend
For none of us can stay
Those of you who liked me,
I sincerely thank you all
And those of you who loved me,
I thank you most of all.

And in my fleeting lifespan,
as time went rushing by
I found some time to hesitate,
to laugh, to love, to cry
Matters it now if time began
If time will ever cease?
I was here, I used it all,
and now I am at peace.

Memorial Poems about Goodbyes

Parta Quies by A.E. Housman

Good-night; ensured release,
imperishable peace,
have these for yours,
while sea abides, and land,
and heaven endures.
When earths foundations flee,
nor sky nor land nor sea
at all is found.
Content you, let them burn:
It is not your concern;
Sleep on, sleep sound.

If I Should Go Tomorrow by Unknown

If I should go tomorrow
It would never be goodbye,
For I have left my heart with you,
So don’t you ever cry.

The love that’s deep within me,
Shall reach you from the stars,
You’ll feel it from the heavens,
And it will heal the scars.

Goodbye My Friend by Karla Bonoff

Though we never know
Where life will take us,
I know it’s just a ride
On the wheel.
And we never know
When death will shake us
And we wonder how
It will feel
So Goodbye my friend.
I know I’ll never see you again.
But the time together
Through all the years,
Will take away these tears.
It’s OK now – Goodbye my friend.
I see a lot of things
That make me crazy,
And I guess I held on to you,
You could have run away
And left – well maybe,
But it wasn’t time
And we both knew.
So Goodbye My friend.
I know I’ll never see you again.
But the love you gave me
Through all the years
Will take away these tears.
I’m OK now – Goodbye my friend.

Poems about Acceptance

A Beautiful Life by Unknown

A beautiful life
that came to an end,
She died as she lived,
everyone’s friend.
In our hearts a memory will always be kept,
Of one we loved,
and will never forget.

To Those Whom I Love And Those Who Love Me by Unknown

When I am gone, release me, let me go
I have so many things to see and do
You must not tie yourself to me with tears
Be happy that I have had so many years

I gave you my love, you can only guess
How much you gave me in happiness
I thank you for the love each have shown
But now it is time I travelled on alone

So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust
It is only for a while that we must part
So bless the memories in your heart

I will not be far away, for life goes on
So if you need me, call and I will come
Though you cannot see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you will hear
All of my love around you soft and clear
Then, when you must come this way alone
I will greet you with a smile and welcome you home.

Involuntary Acceptance by Paula Lahey

Even though
We’re far apart,
You’ll always be
In our heart.

He loved you then,
We love you now.
Kept from your life,
We don’t know how.

Perhaps one day
A chance we’ll be given.
Until that time,
You’ll be missed where we’re living.

We’ll hope for the best
But expect the worst,
That you’ll change your mind,
For this we’ll thirst.

Whether you do or don’t
We may never know,
But never forget,
We still love you so.

Long Funeral Poems

And Death Shall Have No Dominion by Dylan Thomas

And death shall have no dominion.
Dead men naked they shall be one
With the man in the wind and the west moon;
When their bones are picked clean and the clean bones gone,
They shall have stars at elbow and foot;
Though they go mad they shall be sane,
Though they sink through the sea they shall rise again;
Though lovers be lost love shall not;
And death shall have no dominion.

And death shall have no dominion.
Under the windings of the sea
They lying long shall not die windily;
Twisting on racks when sinews give way,
Strapped to a wheel, yet they shall not break;
Faith in their hands shall snap in two,
And the unicorn evils run them through;
Split all ends up they shan’t crack;
And death shall have no dominion.

Because I Could Not Stop For Death by Emily Dickinson

Because I could not stop for death
He kindly stopped for me
The carriage held but just ourselves
And immortality.

We slowly drove – he knew no haste
And I had put away
My labor and my leisure too,
For his civility

We passed the school, where children strove
At recess – in the ring
We passed the fields of gazing grain
We passed the setting sun

Or rather – he passed us
The dews drew quivering and chill
For only gossamer, my Gown
My tippet – only tulle

We paused before a house that seemed
A swelling of the ground
The roof was scarcely visible
The cornice – in the Ground

Since then – ’tis centuries – and yet
Feels shorter than the day
I first surmised the horses’ heads
Were toward eternity

Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night by Dylan Thomas

Do not go gentle into that goodnight,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right.
Because their words have forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that goodnight.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that goodnight,

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that goodnight.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Memorial Card Prayers

Memorial Candles

Comforting prayers are also meaningful to include on memorial cards. You may want to include a special verse to be printed on the card.

When choosing a memorial prayer, look for inspiration from the deceased as well as the survivors and their emotions.

The same goes for the verses—consider a verse that holds a special meaning to the deceased or words that fit the situation of the person who died.

For further ideas, read our list of readings from the old testament. (Includes passages from the New Testament.)

Memorial Prayers with the Name of the Deceased

Father In Heaven

Father in heaven,
We thank you because you made us in your own image and gave us gifts in mind, body and spirit.
We thank you now for – – – – – – – and what he/she meant to each of us.
As we honor his/her memory, make us more aware that you are the one from whom comes every perfect gift, including the gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ.
Amen.

Lord God Creator Of All

Lord God, creator of all,
you have made us creatures of this earth
but have also promised us a share in life eternal:
receive our thanks and praise
that, through the passion and death of Christ,
your child – – – – – , our brother/sister,
whom we commend into your hands today,
shares with your saints in the joy of heaven,
where there is neither sorrow nor pain
but life everlasting.
Alleluia.
Amen.

God Our Father

God our Father,
we thank you that you have made each of us
in your own image,
and given us gifts and talents with which to serve you.
We thank you for – – – – – – ,
the years we shared with him/her,
the good we saw in him/her,
the love we received from him/her.
Now give us strength and courage
to leave him/her in your care,
confident in your promise of eternal life
through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Amen.

Memorial Prayers from the Bible

1 Corinthians 15:20-23

“But in fact Christ has been raised from the dead, the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep. For as by a man came death, by a man has come also the resurrection of the dead. For as in Adam all die, so also in Christ shall all be made alive. But each in his own order: Christ the firstfruits, then at his coming those who belong to Christ.”

1 Thessalonians 5:9-11

“For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep we might live with him. Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”

Hebrews 2:14-15

“Since the children have flesh and blood, He too shared in their humanity so that by His death He might destroy him who holds the power of death—that is, the devil—and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.”

Common Prayers

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him Forever and ever in the next.
Amen.

Psalm 23

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures;
He leadeth me beside the still waters. He
restoreth my soul; He leadeth me in the
paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of
the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for
Thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they
comfort me. Thou preparest a table before
me in the presence of mine enemies: Thou
anointest my head with oil, my cup runneth
over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow
me all the days of my life: and I shall dwell
in the house of the Lord forever.

The Lord’s Prayer

Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name.
Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Long Prayers

A Prayer For The Dead

God our Father,
Your power brings us to birth,
Your providence guides our lives,
and by Your command we return to dust.
Lord, those who die still live in Your presence,
their lives change but do not end.
I pray in hope for my family,
relatives and friends,
and for all the dead known to You alone.
In company with Christ,
Who died and now lives,
may they rejoice in Your kingdom,
where all our tears are wiped away.
Unite us together again in one family,
to sing Your praise forever and ever.
Amen.

Compassionate And Loving God

Compassionate and loving God, yours is the beauty of childhood and yours is the fullness of years.
Comfort us in our sorrow, strengthen us with hope, and breathe peace into our troubled hearts.
Assure us that the love we had for . . . . . was not in vain
indeed make it a part of the store of goodness you are even now pouring out upon
him/her in your eternal kingdom.
Indeed help us to bless you for the gift you gave us in him/her,
for the joy he/she gave all who knew him/her,
for the memories that will abide with us,
and for the assurance that he/she lives forever in the joy and peace of your presence.
Guide us through this time of sadness with the light of your love and the strength of your compassion
we ask it in the name of Christ Jesus.
Amen.

We Give Them Back

We give them back to you, O Lord,
who first gave them to us;
yet as you did not lose them in the giving,
so we do not lose them by their return . . .
For what is yours is ours also,
if we belong to you.
Love is unending, and the boundary
of this mortal life is but a horizon,
and a horizon is nothing
save the limit of our sight.
Lift us up, strong Son of God,
that we may see more clearly . . .
And while you prepare a place for us,
prepare us also for that happy place,
that we may be with you
and with those we loved for evermore.

FAQ

What does a memorial card contain?

A memorial card usually includes an image of the deceased, name, date of birth, and date of death. It may also include a short bio and a memorial poem, prayer, or a message in tribute of the deceased.

Do memorial cards have to be religious?

No. You can personalize a memorial card according to your wishes. You may add themes and include secular passages in dedication to your loved one.

Are there other uses for a memorial card?

Yes. Memorial cards are usually distributed at the memorial service. They may also be mailed to friends who are unable to attend. Mourners may hold on to them as a keepsake of remembrance. They may put it in a Bible, journal, or even in a wallet.

Conclusion

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Pet Loss Poems

Introduction

Losing a pet you consider your best friend, partner, and guide can cause unimaginable sadness. You may feel at a loss for words and it may be difficult to cope with their death.

One way to help process grief is by dedicating a poem to your pet. You can borrow a poem, write your own, read it at a service, print it on a memorial card, or put it on your pet’s epitaph.

However, during times of mourning, finding the perfect poem can be difficult. To ease the process, we compiled the best pet loss poems you can use directly or take inspiration from.

These pet loss poems talk about the unique bonds that both pets and pet parents share. They also talk about the pain that pet parents experience as they navigate grief. 

Lastly, we included tips for writing your own poem for your beloved pet.

Poetry Helps You Heal from Pet Loss

Dog and Cat

Pets are constant companions, and you might feel lost because of their absence. Suddenly, it is difficult to survive each passing day without their unconditional love. You cannot imagine the day you fully accept their death. You do not have to force it, because the grieving process happens gradually.

  • Pet loss poems can help you heal. Expressing your feelings in poem is a heartfelt way to show how much you cared for and cherish the bond you shared with your pet. 
  • Poems can help you accept the death of your pet. There are many ways to cope with this kind of grief. Turning to poetry is one of them. Whether you find a poem to express your thoughts or write your own, it will help to pour your emotions out into words as you try to find peace and acceptance. 
  • Children who lost pets can also use poems to heal. If a child in your family is experiencing grief over a beloved pet, reading and writing poems can be a healthy outlet. They can even write their own simple poems to express their feeling over the loss of their pet.

Many people don’t realize the depth of pain over losing a pet (particularly those who have never owned a pet). Do not let this hinder you from getting the support you need. Reach out to family and friends who are willing to listen empathetically.

Short Pet Loss Poems

Pet loss poems can be short and still be deeply meaningful. A short poem is the best option if you plan to have it printed in a limited space.

There is no right and wrong. A pet loss poem can be written in any style. You may want to remember and express the love that you shared with your pet, or it may be more cathartic to convey the pain that you feel as you grieve over your pet’s loss.

You can use a short pet loss poem in a memorial keepsake, funeral card, or scrapbook. A short poem is also be suitable as an epitaph for a memorial headstone. 

Not Forgotten

You are not forgotten, loved one
Nor will you ever be
As long as life and memory last
We will remember thee

Missing Your Playful Paws

Missing your unconditional love and playful paws,
We are now apart.
You’re gone from our lives,
But never from our heart.

A Silent Thought

A silent thought, a secret tear,
Keeps his memory ever dear.
Time eases the edge of grief,
Memory turns back every leaf.

I Loved You Best

So this is where we part, My Friend,
and you’ll run on, around the bend,
gone from sight, but not from mind,
new pleasures there you’ll surely find.
I will go on, I’ll find the strength,
life measures quality, not its length.
One long embrace before you leave,
share one last look, before I grieve.
There are others, that much is true,
but they be they, and they aren’t you.
And I, fair, impartial, or so I thought,
will remember well all you’ve taught.
Your place I’ll hold, you will be missed,
the fur I stroked, the nose I kissed.
And as you journey to your final rest,
take with you this…I loved you best.

Long Pet Loss Poems

At a time when you might feel like words are not enough to convey the sadness that you feel, a long pet loss poem can help express the complicated feelings while still honoring your pet in the best way possible. 

Long form pet loss poems are best used to recite at a pet funeral. You can dedicate during the service or have it printed in a funeral program.

Below is a list of longer poems to choose from. These can be dedicated to any type of animal. At this difficult time, it can be overwhelming to sift through poems. The examples are express a range of different sentiments and may work well for your tribute.

Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, 
that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. 
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends
so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, 
and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. 
Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, 
just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. 
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing;
they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. 
His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers.
Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass,
his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, 
you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. 
The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head,
and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, 
so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….

 If It Should Be

If it should be that I grow frail and weak 
And pain should keep me from my sleep, 
Then will you do what must be done, 
For this – the last battle – can’t be won. 
You will be sad I understand, 
But don’t let grief then stay your hand, 
For on this day, more than the rest, 
Your love and friendship must stand the test. 
We have had so many happy years, 
You wouldn’t want me to suffer so. 
When the time comes, please, let me go. 
Take me to where to my needs they’ll tend, 
Only, stay with me till the end 
And hold me firm and speak to me 
Until my eyes no longer see. 
I know in time you will agree 
It is a kindness you do to me. 
Although my tail its last has waved, 
From pain and suffering I have been saved. 
Don’t grieve that it must be you 
Who has to decide this thing to do; 
We’ve been so close – we two – these years, 
Don’t let your heart hold any tears. 

I Thought of You Today

I woke early this morning, lifted the shade
to a sky overcast and gray
No ray of sun to brighten my heart,
and I thought of you today.
The breezes of summer are no more
and have moved along on their way.
The crisp air of autumn has settled in,
and I thought of you today.
The crunch of the leaves under my feet,
I remembered how you loved to play,
chasing the leaves across the yard,
and I thought of you today.
As the daylight faded into dusk
and the shadows came to play,
I lit a candle and watched the flame dance,
and I thought of you today.
I crawled into bed, turned out the lamp
and glanced where you used to lay.
The tears came again, as they always do,
as I thought of you today.

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

When tomorrow starts without me,
And I’m not there to see;
The sun will rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me.
I wish so much you wouldn’t cry
The way you did today,
I know how much you loved me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me
I know you’ll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me,
please try to understand
That an angel came and called my name
And petted me with her hand.
She said my place was ready,
In Heaven far above,
And that I’d have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.

But,as I turned to heel away,
A tear fell from my eye,
For all my life I never thought
That I would have to die.
I had so much to live for,
So many sits and downs to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought about our lives together,
I know you must be sad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
Remember when I’d nudge your hand,
And poke you with my nose?
The frisbee I would gladly chase,
The bad guy, I’d “bark and hold”
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for awhile,
I’d wag my tail and kiss you,
Just so I could see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be
For emptiness and memories
Will take the place of me.

And when I thought of treats and toys
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you and when I did,
My dog-heart filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through Heaven’s gate;
And felt so much at home

As God looked down and smiled at me,
From His beautiful throne.
He said,”This is eternity”,
And now we welcome you,
Today your life on earth is past,
But here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last;
For you see,each days’ the same,
There’s no longing for the past. Now you have been so
faithful
So trusting, loyal and true;

Though there were times you did things,
You knew you shouldn’t do
But good dogs are forgiven,
And now at last you’re free;
So won’t you sit here by my side,
And wait right here with me?
So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don’t think we’re far apart
For every time you think of me,
I’m right there, in your heart.

You can also use these samples for writing ideas. If you will be creating your own pet loss poem, a longer poem will let you explore more emotions and share more about your love for your lost pet.

Dog Loss Poems

Sleeping Dog

Dogs are called man’s best friend for a reason, and it is because they are loyal companions. This is why it can be extremely difficult to suddenly face the reality of their absence. Your dog is a member of your family, which is why their death can bring upon great sorrow. 

If you are planning a memorial service to commemorate your dog’s life, a good way to say goodbye to your pet is through a poem. You can also share the poem about your dog online, print it as a tribute, or just keep it nearby so you can read it every time you miss your pet.

A poem can help find closure by memorializing your dog. The list below conveys the joy of sharing a life with a pet dog and the pain of losing them. Many of these poems feature common scenarios that you might have shared with your dog.

I Stood by Your Bed Last Night

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.

I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
“It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”

I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.

I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to reassure you, that I’m not lying there.

I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said “It’s me.”

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.

It’s possible for me to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”

You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew …
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over… I smile and watch you yawning and say
“Goodnight, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.

I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out … then come home to be with me.

A Time to Remember

They come into our lives for such a short time
a time we wouldn’t trade not even for a dime
Then before you know it the years have flown by
and then all of the sudden we’re saying good-bye

It wasn’t that long ago we said our good-byes
we held on to you tight as you closed your eyes
Your spirit has flown home on the wings of a dove
into God’s loving arm’s; in heaven above

Over the days we’ve shed many tears
but the memories we have will live on for years
We feel your presence and we know that your near
you’re keeping us safe and calming our fear

We think about memories from years past
when you were young and strong and ran so fast
we remember all the great times that we all had
how you always made us happy never made us mad

They were the best and happiest years we had
we’ll always look back on them and never be sad
We look forward to the time we’ll be together again
and we thank the Lord for such a great friend

Now you run and play up in Heaven above
cradled in God’s arms covered with his love
Playing by the Bridge waiting for the day
we come down thru the meadow to the bridge to stay

The love that you showed us we’ll never forget
because to us you’re one very special pet
You’re like a star in the dark of night
always watching over us with the Lord’s light

So now we take time to remember our best friend
who will always be with us even to the end
We’ll always remember you the way you were
one big lovable huggable pile of fur

Waiting at the Door

I was just a pup when we first met I loved you from the start.
You picked me up and took me home
and placed me in your heart.
my time has come to go.
I know your heart is sore.
I see the tears that fall when I`m not
waiting at the door.
You always did your best for me
yours love was plain to see,
for even though it broke your heart
you set my spirit free.
So please be brave without me,
one day we´ll met once more,
for when you´re called to Heaven
I´ll be waiting at the door.

Lend Me A Pup

I will lend to you for a while,
a pup, God said,
For you to love him while he lives
and mourn for him when he’s dead.
Maybe for twelve or fourteen years,
or maybe two or three
But will you, ’till I call him back,
take care of him for me.

He’ll bring his charms to gladden you
and (should his stay be brief)
you’ll always have his memories
as solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay,
since all from earth return
But there are lessons taught below
I want this pup to learn.

I’ve looked the whole world over
in search of teachers true
And from the folk that crowd’s life’s land
I have chosen you.
Now will you give him all your love
Nor think the labor vain,
Nor hate me when I come to take my Pup back again.

I fancied that I heard them say
“Dear Lord Thy Will be Done,”
For all the joys this Pup will bring,
the risk of grief we’ll run.
We’ll shelter him with tenderness
we’ll love him while we may
And for the happiness we’ve known forever grateful stay
But should you call him back
much sooner than we’ve planned,
We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes,
and try to understand.
If, by our love, we’ve managed,
your wishes to achieve
In memory of him we loved,
to help us while we grieve,
When our faithful bundle departs this world of strife,
We’ll have yet another Pup and love him all his life.

Cat Loss Poems

Sleeping Cat

People say the joy of being with your pet cat outweighs the pain when you lose them.

But grief is a difficult process, and honoring your pet cat with a poem can help you cope. Poems can also have a positive effect on your spiritual relationship with your pet cat as you finally accept their physical loss.

The cat loss poems below are well-suited to be recited during a memorial service. They can serve many purposes. You can recite one as a eulogy, print one a funeral program, used them in a memorial keepsake, and share them online.

Four Feet in Heaven

Your favorite chair is vacant now…
No eager purrs to greet me.
No softly padded paws to run
Ecstatically to meet me.

No coaxing rubs, no plaintive cry
Will say it’s time for feeding.
I’ve put away your bowl, and all
The things you won’t be needing;

But I will miss you little friend,
For I could never measure
The happiness you brought me,
The comfort and the pleasure.

And since God put you here to share
In earthly joy and sorrow;
I’m sure there’ll be a place for you
In Heaven’s bright tomorrow…

Alice E. Chase

Heavenly Nap

You lived your nine lives here with me
my loyal, loving friend,
Then God took you up to Paradise
to live life number ten.

I’ll bet you’re peacefully lying
upon an angel’s lap.
Purring there, without a care
having a heavenly nap.

I’ll miss you for a little while,
but our friendship will not end.
Time will pass, and then at last
you’ll be on my lap again.

Ron Tranmer

I Made It Home

I just wanted to let you know that I made it home. The journey wasn’t an easy one, but it didn’t take too long.

Everything is so pretty here, so white, so fresh and new. I wish that you could close your eyes and that you could see it too.

Please try not to be sad for me. Try to understand God is taking care of me…I’m in the shelter of His hands.

Here there is no sadness, no sorrow, and no pain. Here there is no crying and I’ll never hurt again.

Here it is so peaceful when all the angels sing. I really have to go for now… I’ve just got to try my wings.

God’s Garden

God looked around his garden,
And found an empty place.
He then looked down upon the earth,
And saw your tired face.

He put his arms around you,
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best.

He knew that you were suffering,
He knew you were in pain.
He knew that you would never,
Get well on this earth again.

He saw the road was getting rough,
And the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids,
And whispered, “Peace be thine.”

It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you didn’t go alone.
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.

Poems for Other Pets

There are many other pets such as fish, birds, rabbits, hamsters, guinea pigs, turtles, and horses that people keep. 

While many of the mentioned poems explicitly talk about the loss of a cat or dog, there are also pet loss poems that can be suitable for any type of animal. These poems also help with the grieving process.

Below is a list of poems that could be appropriate for other pets. You can also browse through these poems for ideas and inspiration if you want to write your own pet loss poem.

Saying Goodbye to A Special Pet

Saying goodbye to a special pet can be the hardest thing of all.

It’s like losing a friend who has always been there for me.

A companion in times of loneliness, a comfort and moments of sadness,

and everyday joy that has touched my life.

Saying goodbye to a special pet can be the hardest thing of all.

Until I remember I’d never trade one precious memory,

or one single moment spent with my dog who brought so much joy to my life.

And left so much happiness in my heart.

Don’t Cry for the Horses

Don’t cry for the horses
That life has set free
A million white horses
Forever to be

Don’t cry for the horses
Now in God’s hands
As they dance and they prance
To a heavenly band

They were ours as a gift
But never to keep
As they close their eyes
Forever to sleep

Their spirits unbound
On silver wings they fly
A million white horses
Against the blue sky

Look up into heaven
You’ll see them above
The horses we lost
The horses we loved

Manes and tails flowing
They Gallop through time
They were never yours
They were never mine

Don’t cry for the horses
They will be back someday
When our time has come
They will show us the way

Brenda Riley-Seymore

My Forever Pet

There’s something missing in my home,
I feel it day and night,
I know it will take time and strength
before things feel quite right.
But just for now, I need to mourn,
My heart — it needs to mend.
Though some may say, “It’s just a pet,”
I know I’ve lost a friend.
You’ve brought such laughter to my home,
and richness to my days.
A constant friend through joy or loss
with gentle, loving ways.
Companion, friend, and confidante,
A friend I won’t forget.
You’ll live forever in my heart,
My sweet, forever pet.

Susanne Taylor

I Only Wanted You

They say memories are golden
well maybe that is true.
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.
A million times I needed you,
a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.

In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place
no one could ever fill.

If tears could build a stairway,
and heartache make a lane,
I’d walk the path to heaven and bring you back again.

Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again.

Tribute To A Best Friend

Sunlight streams through window pane
unto a spot on the floor….
then I remember,
it’s where you used to lie,
but now you are no more.

Our feet walk down a hall of carpet,
and muted echoes sound….
then I remember,
It’s where your paws would joyously abound.

A voice is heard along the road,
and up beyond the hill,
then I remember it can’t be yours….
your golden voice is still.

But I’ll take that vacant spot of floor
and empty muted hall
and lay them with the absent voice
and unused dish along the wall

I’ll wrap these treasured memorials in a blanket of my love
and keep them for my best friend until we meet above.

Further Readings and Resources

In addition to these specific pet loss poems, you may want to choose from our collection of the best funeral poems. Remember, there is no right answer. Choose the poem that resonates with your heart and expresses what you feel. For more inspiration, here is a collection of funeral readings, including specific selections from the testament.

For further reading about pet loss and dealing with the grief, consider the Center for Pet Loss Grief’s website.

How to Write a Personal Pet Loss Poem

If you have decided that you would rather write your own poem to honor your beloved pet, you are taking a positive step towards processing your grief. Writing about your feelings over the death of your pet is cathartic and healing. Here are some ideas on how to start:

  • Acknowledge your emotions. Grief can be a mix of different emotions such as sadness, anxiety, confusion, shock, and even anger. One way to tackle this is to allow yourself to feel these emotions and acknowledge that grief is normal. Your journey towards acceptance will change gradually and you just have to be patient with yourself as you take time for your soul to heal.
  • Write about your personal memories. After you accept that the grieving process is natural, you can then process it by writing about your life with your pet. As you reminisce about the life you shared with your pet, recount the good times that you had together and be thankful. If you have a specific fond memory of your pet, sharing it makes a personal connection.
  • Try to structure your poem around a theme. As you draft your poem, it’s good to think about the overarching theme that you want to share. Determine the focus of your poem, as well as the emotion you want to elicit from the reader. For instance, you may want to write your poem as a farewell to your pet. Or you can simply express your feelings of longing and acceptance.

Mindfulness and Grief has a helpful guide providing advice about writing poetry dealing with loss.

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Farewell My Old Friend

by John McGuire


You looked me in the eye; said ” it’s all right”.
Time to send me on my way.
Don’t be sad.
I’m just glad.
This old dog has had its day.


(I sang)

Farewell my old friend.
Don’t mind if I cry.
Grieving’s just a way to say “goodbye”,
To someone that I’ve loved and lost; that’s why.


Here’s to all those good times we spent together;
Pulling on that leash and running free.
Rainy days, lonely nights,
You were always there to share with me.


Farewell my old friend.
Don’t mind if I cry.
Grieving’s just a way to say “goodbye”,
To someone that I’ve loved and lost; that’s why.


So long my old pal.
Thanks for being true.
Giving back the love I gave to you.
There’s another dog who’s waiting for some, too.
I’Il pass it on and love ’em just like you.

FAQ

Do I need to have a funeral for my pet?

It is not required, but it helps the healing process.. A ceremony for the death of your pet can help you find closure as you say your final goodbyes. It helps with the grieving process if you acknowledge their death and your emotion formally. 

Do I need to have a funeral card/program for my pet?

It is not necessary, but it would make a good keepsake. A funeral card can be a beautiful tribute to your pet. You can honor the life you shared with your pet by adding their photos and memories to the funeral card.

Can I add a poem to my pet’s funeral card?

Yes. Dedicating a poem for your pet would make a beautiful tribute. You can add a poem written by others or create your personal poem for your pet. Aside from poems, you can also choose to add quotes, song lyrics, and prayers. 

Conclusion

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51 Best Funeral Hymns

Introduction

Music can inspire, comfort, and uplift family and friends while they celebrate a lost loved one. Here is an inspiring list of funeral hymns to help you choose the best music (hymns) for your funeral service.

Choosing Funeral Hymns

Choir of Funeral Hymn

Music is an important part of the funeral liturgy. It unites the mourners in heart and mind, and helps to express the thought and emotions felt by everyone. For direction, choose a funeral hymn would honor the life of the person who died.

The best starting point in looking for an appropriate funeral hymn is to check the wishes of the deceased. Musical choices may have been written in a funeral plan, or mentioned to family and friends.

If no plans were made consider the mood you want to convey and the best way to pay tribute to the deceased.

The following hymns are appropriate for church funerals since they include themes of the paschal mystery and the Lord’s suffering, death, and resurrection.

We also have a specific collection of Catholic funeral hymns and a list of the best funeral poems.

When you find a hymn you like, talk to the pianist, organist, professional cantor, or leader of the funeral music to make sure it can be performed and is appropriate for the service.

Funeral Hymns or Funeral Songs?

A hymn is a type of song, so all hymns are songs but not all songs are hymns. A song is considered a hymn if it uses meter and addresses a religious figure (often with adoration or prayer). They are simple, emotional, and spiritual.

Though not required, hymns can have an instrumental accompaniment. In Christianity, most often this is the piano. Hymns are sometimes referred to as praise songs or worship songs.

Traditional Funeral Hymns

Here are some of the most popular classic hymns with lyrics that traditionally describe God, His attributes, and activities. 

Abide With Me

Abide with me: fast falls the eventide;
the darkness deepens; Lord, with me abide.
When other helpers fail and comforts flee,
Help of the helpless, O abide with me.

Swift to its close ebbs out life’s little day;
earth’s joys grow dim, its glories pass away.
Change and decay in all around I see.
O thou who changest not, abide with me.

I need thy presence every passing hour.
What but thy grace can foil the tempter’s power?
Who like thyself my guide and strength can be?
Through cloud and sunshine, O abide with me.

I fear no foe with thee at hand to bless,
ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness.
Where is death’s sting? Where, grave, thy victory?
I triumph still, if thou abide with me.

Hold thou thy cross before my closing eyes.
Shine through the gloom and point me to the skies.
Heaven’s morning breaks and earth’s vain shadows flee;
in life, in death, O Lord, abide with me. 

Source: Hymnary

All My Hope on God Is Founded

All my hope on God is founded;
he doth still my trust renew.
Me through change and chance he guideth,
only good and only true.
God unknown,
he alone
calls my heart to be his own.

Human pride and earthly glory,
sword and crown betray his trust;
what with care and toil he buildeth,
tower and temple, fall to dust.
But God’s power,
hour by hour,
is my temple and my tower.

God’s great goodness aye endureth,
deep his wisdom, passing thought:
splendour, light, and life attend him,
beauty springeth out of naught.
Evermore
from his store
new-born worlds rise and adore.

Daily doth th’ Almighty giver
bounteous gifts on us bestow;
his desire our soul delighteth,
pleasure leads us where we go.
Love doth stand
at his hand;
joy doth wait on his command.

Still from earth to God eternal
sacrifice of praise be done,
high above all praises praising
for the gift of Christ his Son.
Christ doth call
one and all:
ye who follow shall not fall.

Source: Hymnary

Be Thou My Vision

Be thou my vision, O Lord of my heart;
naught be all else to me, save that thou art–
thou my best thought by day or by night,
waking or sleeping, thy presence my light.

Be thou my wisdom, and thou my true word;
I ever with thee and thou with me, Lord;
thou my great Father, I thy true son;
thou in me dwelling, and I with thee one.

Be thou my battle shield, sword for my fight;
be thou my dignity, thou my delight,
thou my soul’s shelter, thou my high tow’r:
raise thou me heav’n-ward, O Pow’r of my pow’r.

Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise,
thou mine inheritance, now and always:
thou and thou only, first in my heart,
High King of heaven, my treasure thou art.

High King of heaven, my victory won,
may I reach heaven’s joys, O bright heav’n’s Sun!
Heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
still be my vision, O Ruler of all.

Source: Hymnary

Firmly I Believe and Truly

Firmly I believe and truly
God is Three and God is One;
and I next acknowledge duly
manhood taken by the Son.

And I trust and hope most fully
in that manhood crucified;
and each thought and deed unruly
do to death, as he has died.

Simply to his grace and wholly
light and life and strength belong,
and I love supremely, solely,
him the holy, him the strong.

And I hold in veneration,
for the love of him alone,
Holy Church as his creation,
and her teachings as his own.

Adoration ay be given,
with and through the angelic host,
to the God of earth and heaven,
Father, Son, and Holy Ghost.

Source: Hymnary

For All the Saints

For all the saints who from their labors rest,
who thee by faith before the world confessed,
thy name, O Jesus, be forever blest.
Alleluia! Alleluia!

Thou wast their rock, their fortress, and their might;
thou, Lord, their captain in the well-fought fight;
thou, in the darkness drear, their one true light.
Alleluia! Alleluia!

O may thy soldiers, faithful, true, and bold,
fight as the saints who nobly fought of old,
and win with them the victor’s crown of gold.
Alleluia! Alleluia!

O blest communion, fellowship divine,
we feebly struggle, they in glory shine;
yet all are one in thee, for all are thine.
Alleluia! Alleluia!

And when the fight is fierce, the warfare long,
steals on the ear the distant triumph song,
and hearts are brave again, and arms are strong.
Alleluia! Alleluia!

The golden evening brightens in the west;
soon, soon to faithful warrior cometh rest;
sweet is the calm of paradise the blest.
Alleluia! Alleluia!

But lo! there breaks a yet more glorious day;
the saints triumphant rise in bright array;
the King of glory passes on his way.
Alleluia! Alleluia!

From earth’s wide bounds, from ocean’s farthest coast,
through gates of pearl streams in the countless host,
singing to Father, Son, and Holy Ghost,
Alleluia! Alleluia!

Source: Hymnary

Guide Me, O Thou Great Redeemer

Guide me, O my great Redeemer,
pilgrim through this barren land;
I am weak, but you are mighty;
hold me with your powerful hand.
Bread of heaven, bread of heaven,
feed me now and evermore,
feed me now and evermore.

Open now the crystal fountain,
where the healing waters flow.
Let the fire and cloudy pillar
lead me all my journey through.
Strong Deliverer, strong Deliverer,
ever be my strength and shield,
ever be my strength and shield.

When I tread the verge of Jordan,
bid my anxious fears subside.
Death of death, and hell’s Destruction,
land me safe on Canaan’s side.
Songs of praises, songs of praises
I will ever sing to you,
I will ever sing to you. 

Source: Hymnary

I Heard the Voice of Jesus Say

I heard the voice of Jesus say,
“Come unto me and rest;
Lay down, O weary one, lay down
Your head upon my breast.”
I came to Jesus as I was,
So weary, worn, and sad;
I found in him a resting place,
And he has made me glad.

I heard the voice of Jesus say,
“Behold, I freely give
The living water; thirsty one,
Stoop down, and drink, and live.”
I came to Jesus, and I drank
Of that life-giving stream;
My thirst was quenched, my soul revived,
And now I live in him.

I heard the voice of Jesus say,
“I am this dark world’s light;
Look unto me, your morn shall rise,
And all your day be bright.”
I looked to Jesus, and I found
In him my star, my sun;
And in that light of life I’ll walk
Till trav’ling days are done.

Source: Hymnary

O Jesus, I Have Promised

O Jesus, I have promised 
to serve thee to the end; 
be thou forever near me, 
my Master and my Friend; 
I shall not fear the battle 
if thou art by my side, 
nor wander from the pathway 
if thou wilt be my guide. 

O Jesus, thou hast promised 
to all who follow thee, 
that where thou art in glory
there shall thy servant be; 
and, Jesus, I have promised 
to serve thee to the end;
O give me grace to follow,
my Master and my Friend. 

O let me feel thee near me!
The world is ever near; 
I see the sights that dazzle, 
the tempting sounds I hear; 
my foes are ever near me, 
around me and within; 
but Jesus, draw thou nearer, 
and shield my soul from sin. 

O let me hear thee speaking 
in accents clear and still, 
above the storms of passion, 
the murmurs of self will. 
O speak to reassure me, 
to hasten or control; 
O speak and make me listen,
thou guardian of my soul. 

Source: Hymnary

Lead, Kindly Light

Lead, kindly Light, amid th’encircling gloom;
Lead thou me on!
The night is dark, and I am far from home;
Lead thou me on!
Keep thou my feet; I do not ask to see
The distant scene—one step enough for me.

I was not ever thus, nor pray’d that thou
Shouldst lead me on.
I loved to choose and see my path; but now,
Lead thou me on!
I loved the garish day, and, spite of fears,
Pride ruled my will. Remember not past years.

So long thy pow’r hath blest me, sure it still
Will lead me on
O’er moor and fen, o’er crag and torrent, till
The night is gone.
And with the morn those angel faces smile,
Which I have loved long since, and lost awhile!

Source: Church of Jesus Christ

Lord of All Hopefulness

Lord of all hopefulness,
Lord of all joy,
Whose trust, ever child-like,
No cares could destroy,
Be there at our waking,
And give us, we pray,
Your bliss in our hearts, Lord,
At the break of the day.

Lord of all eagerness, Lord of all faith,
Whose strong hands were skilled
At the plane and the lathe,
Be there at our labours,
And give us, we pray,
Your strength in our hearts, Lord,
At the noon of the day.

Lord of all kindliness, Lord of all grace,
Your hands swift to welcome,
Your arms to embrace,
Be there at our homing,
And give us, we pray,
Your love in our hearts, Lord,
At the eve of the day.

Lord of all gentleness, Lord of all calm,
Whose voice is contentment,
Whose presence is balm,
Be there at our sleeping,
And give us, we pray,
Your peace in our hearts, Lord,
At the end of the day.

Source: Worship Workshop

Now the Green Blade Riseth

Now the green blade riseth, from the buried grain,
Wheat that in dark earth many days has lain;
Love lives again, that with the dead has been:
Love is come again like wheat that springeth green.

In the grave they laid Him, Love who had been slain,
Thinking that He never would awake again,
Laid in the earth like grain that sleeps unseen: 
Love is come again like wheat that springeth green.

Forth He came at Easter, like the risen grain,
Jesus who for three days in the grave had lain;
Quick from the dead the risen One is seen:
Love is come again like wheat that springeth green.

When our hearts are wintry, grieving, or in pain,
Jesus’ touch can call us back to life again,
Fields of our hearts that dead and bare have been: 
Love is come again like wheat that springeth green.

Source: Hymnary

O God, Our Help in Ages Past

Our God, our help in ages past, 
our hope for years to come, 
our shelter from the stormy blast, 
and our eternal home: 

Under the shadow of your throne 
your saints have dwelt secure; 
sufficient is your arm alone, 
and our defense is sure. 

Before the hills in order stood, 
or earth received her frame, 
from everlasting you are God, 
to endless years the same. 

A thousand ages in your sight 
are like an evening gone; 
short as the watch that ends the night 
before the rising sun. 

The busy tribes of flesh and blood,
with all their lives and cares,
are carried downward by your flood,
and lost in foll’wing years.

Time, like an ever-rolling stream, 
bears all its sons away; 
they fly forgotten, as a dream 
dies at the op’ning day. 

Our God, our help in ages past, 
our hope for years to come:
O be our guard while troubles last, 
and our eternal home.

Source: Hymnary

Praise to the Holiest in the Height

Praise to the Holiest in the height,
and in the depth be praise:
in all his words most wonderful,
most sure in all his ways.

O loving wisdom of our God!
When all was sin and shame,
a second Adam to the fight
and to the rescue came.

O wisest love! that flesh and blood,
which did in Adam fail,
should strive afresh against the foe,
should strive and should prevail;

And that a higher gift than grace
should flesh and blood refine,
God’s presence and his very self,
and essence all-divine.

O generous love! that he, who smote
in Man for man the foe,
the double agony in Man
for man should undergo;

And in the garden secretly,
and on the cross on high,
should teach his brethren, and inspire
to suffer and to die.

Praise to the Holiest in the height,
and in the depth be praise:
in all his words most wonderful,
most sure in all his ways.

Source: Hymnary

Praise We Our God With Joy

Praise we our God with joy
And gladness never ending;
Angels and Saints with us
Their grateful voices blending.
He is our Father dear,
O’erfilled with Father’s love;
Mercies unsought, unknown
He showers from above,

He is our Shepherd true,
With watchful care unsleeping;
On us, his erring sheep,
An eye of pity keeping.
He with a mighty arm
The bonds of sin doth break,
And to our burden’d hearths
In words of peace doth speak.

Bleeding, we lay, but He
With soothing bands hath bound us;
Dark was our path, but He
Hath poured His light around us;
Graces in copious streams
From that pure fountain come,
Down to our heart of hearts,
Where God hath set his home.

His Word our lantern is,
His Peace our consolation;
His sweetness all our rest,
Himself our great Salvation!
Then live we all to God,
Rely on Him in faith,
Be He our guide in life,
Our joy, our hope, in death.

Source: Bible Hub

Sing With All the Saints in Glory

Sing with all the saints in glory, 
Sing the resurrection song! 
Death and sorrow, earth’s dark story, 
To the former days belong. 
All around the clouds are breaking, 
Soon the storms of time shall cease; 
In God’s likeness we awaken, 
Knowing everlasting peace.

O what glory, far exceeding 
All that eye has yet perceived! 
Holiest hearts, for ages pleading, 
Never that full joy conceived. 
God has promised, Christ prepares it, 
There on high our welcome waits.
Ev’ry humble spirit shares it; 
Christ has passed the eternal gates.

Life eternal! heav’n rejoices: 
Jesus lives who once was dead. 
Shout with joy, O deathless voices! 
Child of God, lift up your head! 
Patriarchs from distant ages,
Saints all longing for their heav’n,
Prophets, psalmists, seers, and sages,
All await the glory giv’n.

Life eternal! O what wonders 
Crowd on faith; what joy unknown, 
When, amid earth’s closing thunders, 
Saints shall stand before the throne! 
Oh, to enter that bright portal, 
See that glowing firmament, 
Know, with you, O God immortal, 
Jesus Christ whom you have sent!

Source: Hymnary

Soul of my Saviour

Soul of my Saviour, sanctify my breast,
body of Christ, be thou my saving guest,
blood of my Saviour, bathe me in thy tide,
wash me with water flowing from thy side.

Strength and protection may thy Passion be,
O blessèd Jesu, hear and answer me;
deep in thy wounds, Lord, hide and shelter me,
so shall I never, never part from thee.

Guard and defend me from the foe malign,
in death’s dread moments make me only thine;
call me and bid me come to thee on high
where I may praise thee with thy saints for ay.

Source: Hymnary

Thine Be the Glory

Thine be the glory, risen, conqu’ring Son:
endless is the vict’ry thou o’er death hast won;
angels in bright raiment rolled the stone away,
kept the folded grave-clothes where thy body lay.

Refrain:
Thine be the glory, risen, conqu’ring Son;
endless is the vict’ry thou o’er death hast won.

Lo! Jesus meets us, risen from the tomb;
lovingly he greets us, scatters fear and gloom;
let the church with gladness, hymns of triumph sing,
for her Lord now liveth, death hath lost its sting. [Refrain]

No more we doubt thee, glorious Prince of life;
life is naught without thee: aid us in our strife;
make us more than conqu’rors, thro’ thy deathless love:
bring us safe thro’ Jordan to thy home above. [Refrain]

Source: Hymnary

Modern Funeral Hymns

In recent years a lot of popular liturgical music has been written that is appropriate for a funeral. Below are some contemporary church hymns that slightly differ from tradition hymns.

Traditional funeral hymns are often “about” God, while modern funeral hymns are often “addressed to” God. Most modern lyrics read if the worshipper is addressing God directly.

Be still and know I am with you

Be still, and know I am with you,
Be still, I am the Lord.
I will not leave you orphans.
I leave you with my world. Be one.


You fear the light may be fading,
You fear to lose your way.
Be still, and know I am near you.
I’ll lead you to the day and the sun.


Be glad the day you have sorrow.
Be glad, for then you live.
The stars shine only in darkness,
and in your need I give my peace.

Be not afraid

You shall cross the barren desert,
but you shall not die of thirst.
You shall wander far in safety
though you do not know the way.
You shall speak your words in foreign lands
and all will understand.
You shall see the face of God and live.

Be not afraid.
I go before you always.
Come, follow me, and I will give you rest.

If you pass through raging waters in the sea,
you shall not drown.
If you walk amid the burning flames,
you shall not be harmed.
If you stand before the pow’r of hell
and death is at your side,
know that I am with you through it all.

Be not afraid.
I go before you always.
Come, follow me, and I will give you rest.

Blessed are your poor,
for the kingdom shall be theirs.
Blest are you that weep and mourn,
for one day you shall laugh.
And if wicked tongues insult and hate you
all because of me,
blessed, blessed are you!

Be not afraid.
I go before you always.
Come, follow me, and I will give you rest.

Source: Catholic Hymn

Go, silent friend

Go, silent friend,
your life has found its ending;
To dust returns your weary mortal frame.
God, who before birth called you into being,
Now calls you hence, his ascent still the same.
Go, silent friend,
your life in Christ is buried;
For you he lived and died and rose again.
Close by his side your promised place is waiting
Where, fully known, you shall with God remain.

Go, silent friend,
forgive us if we grieved you;
Safe now in heaven, kindly say our name.
your life has touched us, that is why we mourn you;
Our lives without you cannot be the same.
Go, silent friend,
we do not grudge you glory;
Sing, sing with joy deep praises to your Lord.
You, who believed that Christ would come back for you,
Now celebrate that Jesus keeps his word.

Source: Worship Workshop

How great thou art

O Lord my God, When I in awesome wonder,
Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;
I see the stars, I hear the rolling thunder,
Thy power throughout the universe displayed.

Chorus:
Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.
Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art!

When through the woods, and forest glades I wander,
And hear the birds sing sweetly in the trees.
When I look down, from lofty mountain grandeur
And see the brook, and feel the gentle breeze.

Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.
Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art!

And when I think, that God, His Son not sparing;
Sent Him to die, I scarce can take it in;
That on a Cross, my burdens gladly bearing,
He bled and died to take away my sin.

Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.
Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art!

When Christ shall come, with shout of acclamation,
And take me home, what joy shall fill my heart.
Then I shall bow, in humble adoration,
And then proclaim: “My God, how great Thou art!”

Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.
Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art, How great Thou art!

Source: Godtube

I am the bread of life

 life.
He who comes to me shall not hunger;
he who believes in me shall not thirst.
No one can come to me
unless the Father draw him.

And I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up on the last day.

The bread that I will give
is my flesh for the life of the world,
and he who eats of this bread,
he shall live for ever,
he shall live for ever.

And I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up on the last day.

Unless you eat
of the flesh of the Son of Man
and drink of his blood,
and drink of his blood,
you shall not have life within you.

And I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up on the last day.

I am the resurrection,
I am the life.
He who believes in me
even if he die,
he shall live for ever.

And I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up on the last day.

Yes, Lord, I believe
that you are the Christ,
the Son of God,
who has come
into the world.

And I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up,
and I will raise him up on the last day.

Source: Catholic Hymn

Like a child rests

Refrain:
Like a child rests in its mother’s arms,
so will I rest in you. (Rpt)

Verse 1:
My God, I am not proud.
I do not look for things too great.

[Refrain]

Verse 2:
My God, I trust in you.
You care for me, you give me peace.

[Refrain]

Verse 3:
O Israel, trust in God,
now and always trust in God.

[Refrain]

Source: Six Maddens

Jesus, son of Mary

Jesus, Son of Mary, 
fount of life alone,
here we hail thee present 
on thine altar-throne.

Humbly we adore thee, 
Lord of endless might,
in the mystic symbols 
veiled from earthly sight.

Think, O Lord, in mercy 
on the souls of those
who, in faith gone from us, 
now in death repose.

Here ‘mid stress and conflict 
toils can never cease;
there, the warfare ended, 
bid them rest in peace.

Often were they wounded 
in the deadly strife;
heal them, good Physician, 
with the balm of life.

Ev’ry taint of evil, 
frailty and decay,
good and gracious Saviour, 
cleanse and purge away.

Rest eternal grant unto them,
after weary fight;
shed on them the radiance 
of thy heav’nly light.

Source: Hymnary

O the love of my Lord

Oh, the love of my Lord is the essence
of all that I love here on earth.
All the beauty I see he has given to me
and his giving is gentle as silence.

Every day, every hour, every moment
have been blessed by the strength of his love.
At the turn of each tide he is there at my side,
and his touch is as gentle as silence.

There’ve been times when I’ve turned from his presence,
and I’ve walked other paths, other ways.
But I’ve called on his name in the dark of my shame,
and his mercy was gentle as silence.

On eagle’s wings

You who dwell in the shelter of the Lord,
who abide in his shadow for life,
say to the Lord: “My refuge, my rock in whom I trust!”

And he will raise you up on eagle’s wings,
bear you on the breath of dawn,
make you to shine like the sun,
and hold you in the palm of his hand.

The snare of the fowler will never capture you,
and famine will bring you no fear:
under his wings your refuge,
his faithfulness your shield.

And he will raise you up on eagle’s wings,
bear you on the breath of dawn,
make you to shine like the sun,
and hold you in the palm of his hand.

You need not fear the terror of the night,
nor the arrow that flies by day;
though thousands fall about you,
near you it shall not come.

And he will raise you up on eagle’s wings,
bear you on the breath of dawn,
make you to shine like the sun,
and hold you in the palm of his hand.

For to his angels he’s given a command
to guard you in all of your ways;
upon their hands they will bear you up,
lest you dash your foot against a stone.

And he will raise you up on eagle’s wings,
bear you on the breath of dawn,
make you to shine like the sun,
and hold you in the palm of his hand.

Source: Catholic Hymn

There is a longing in our hearts

Refrain: There is a longing in our hearts, O Lord,
for you to reveal yourself to us.
There is a longing in our hearts
for love we only find in you, our God.

For justice, for freedom,
for mercy, hear our prayer.
In sorrow, in grief,
be near, hear our prayer, O God.

Refrain: There is a longing in our hearts, O Lord,
for you to reveal yourself to us.
There is a longing in our hearts
for love we only find in you, our God.

For wisdom, for courage,
for comfort, hear our prayer.
In weakness, in fear,
be near, hear our prayer, O God.

Refrain: There is a longing in our hearts, O Lord,
for you to reveal yourself to us.
There is a longing in our hearts
for love we only find in you, our God.

  1. For healing, for wholeness,
    for new life, hear our prayer.
    In sickness, in death,
    be near, hear our prayer, O God.

Refrain: There is a longing in our hearts, O Lord,
for you to reveal yourself to us.
There is a longing in our hearts
for love we only find in you, our God.

Lord save us, take pity,
light in our darkness.
We call you, we wait,
be near, hear our prayer, O God.

Final Refrain: There is a longing in our hearts, O Lord,
for you to reveal yourself to us.
There is a longing in our hearts
for love we only find in you, our God.

Source: Lord Calls

Unless a grain of wheat

Refrain:
Unless a grain of wheat shall fall upon the ground and die,
it remains but a single grain with no life.

If we have died with him then we shall live with him;
if we hold firm, we shall reign with him. [Refrain]
If anyone serves me then they must follow me;
wherever I am my servants will be. [Refrain]

Make your home in me as I make mine in you;
those who remain in me bear much fruit. [Refrain]

If you remain in me and my word lives in you,
then you will be my disciples. [Refrain]

Those who love me are loved by my Father;
we shall be with them and dwell in them. [Refrain]

Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you;
peace which the world cannot give is my gift. [Refrain]

Source: Hymnary

We walk by faith

We walk by faith, and not by sight:
No gracious words we hear
Of him who spoke as none e’er spoke,
But we believe him near.

We may not touch his hands and side,
Nor follow where he trod;
Yet in his promise we rejoice,
And cry “My Lord and God!”

Help then, O Lord, our unbelief,
And may our faith abound;
To call on you when you are near,
And seek where you are found:

That when our life of faith is done
In realms of clearer light
We may behold you as you are
In full and endless sight.

We walk by faith, and not by sight:
No gracious words we hear
Of him who spoke as none e’er spoke,
But we believe him near.

Source: Catholic Hymn

Yahweh, I know you are near

Yahweh, I know you are near,
standing always at my side.
You guard me from the foe,
and you lead me in ways everlasting.

Lord, you have searched my heart,
and you know when I sit and when I stand.
Your hand is upon me protecting me from death,
keeping me from harm.

Where can I run from Your love?
If I climb to the heavens You are there;
If I fly to the sunrise or sail beyond the sea,
still I’d find You there.

You know my heart and its ways,
you who formed me before I was born
in the secret of darkness before I saw the sun
in my mother’s womb.

Marvelous to me are Your works;
how profound are Your thoughts, my Lord.
Even if I could count them, they number as the stars,
You would still be there.

Source: Gospel Lyrics

Seasonal Hymns

When selecting a funeral hymn, one consideration is the liturgical season that is being celebrated.

The Easter Season is an appropriate time to make a connection between the death and resurrection of Christ and our own dying and transition to eternal life.

Next, the selected music for the Advent Season address anticipation and longing for a Savior, the coming of the kingdom.

Lastly, hymns during Lent focus on God’s mercy and forgiveness. Below are a few of the popular hymns for different liturgical seasons.

Conducting Choir of Hymn
All creatures of our God and King (Easter)

All creatures of our God and King, 
lift up your voice and with us sing 
alleluia, alleluia! 
Thou burning sun with golden beam, 
thou silver moon with softer gleam, 
O praise him, O praise him, 
alleluia, alleluia, alleluia! 

Thou rushing wind that art so strong, 
ye clouds that sail in heav’n along, 
O praise him, alleluia! 
Thou rising morn, in praise rejoice, 
ye lights of evening, find a voice, 
O praise him, O praise him, 
alleluia, alleluia, alleluia! 

Thou flowing water, pure and clear, 
make music for thy Lord to hear, 
alleluia, alleluia!
Thou fire so masterful and bright, 
that givest man both warmth and light, 
O praise him, O praise him, 
alleluia, alleluia, alleluia! 

And all ye men of tender heart,
forgiving others, take your part, 
O sing ye, alleluia! 
Ye who long pain and sorrow bear,
praise God and on him cast your care,
O praise him, O praise him, 
alleluia, alleluia, alleluia! 

Let all things their Creator bless,
and worship him in humbleness,
O praise him, alleluia!
Praise, praise the Father, praise the Son,
and praise the Spirit, three in one, 
O praise him, O praise him, 
alleluia, alleluia, alleluia!

Source: Hymnary

Comfort, comfort, O my people (Advent)

Comfort, comfort ye my people,
speak ye peace, thus saith our God;
comfort those who sit in darkness,
mourning ‘neath their sorrow’s load.
Speak ye to Jerusalem
of the peace that waits for them;
tell her that her sins I cover,
and her warfare now is over.

Yea, her sins our God will pardon,
blotting out each dark misdeed;
all that well deserved his anger
he no more will see or heed.
She hath suffered many a day,
now her griefs have passed away;
God will change her pining sadness
into ever-springing gladness.

For the herald’s voice is crying
in the desert far and near,
bidding all men to repentance,
since the kingdom now is here.
O that warning cry obey!
Now prepare for God a way;
let the valleys rise to meet him,
and the hills bow down to greet him.

Make ye straight what long was crooked,
make the rougher places plain;
let your hearts be true and humble,
as befits his holy reign.
For the glory of the Lord
now o’er earth is shed abroad;
and all flesh shall see the token
that his word is never broken.

Source: Hymnary

Jesus walked this Lonesome Valley (Lent)

Jesus walked this lonesome valley;
He had to walk it by himself.
Oh, nobody else could walk it for him;
He had to walk it by himself.

We must walk this lonesome valley;
We have to walk it by ourselves.
Oh, nobody else can walk it for us;
We have to walk it by ourselves.

You must go and stand your trial;
You have to stand it by yourself.
Oh, nobody else can stand it for you;
You have to stand it by yourself.

Source: Hymnary

Jesus Remember Me (Lent)

Jesus, remember me
when you come into your kingdom.
Jesus, remember me
when you come in to your kingdom.

Source: Hymnary

O Sun of Justice (Lent)

O Sun of Justice, Jesus Christ,
May darkness of our mind give way
To strength’ning light of grace divine,
As you restore on earth the day.

You give us time to make amends,
Arouse true sorrow in our hearts;
May your great kindness win us back
Whose faults your pity disregards.

Let all the vast world worship pay
To you, O Trinity most kind;
And let us sing new hymns of praise,
Renewed by grace in heart and mind.

Of the Father’s love begotten (Christmas)

Of the Father’s love begotten
ere the worlds began to be,
he is Alpha and Omega,
he the Source, the Ending he,
of the things that are, that have been,
and that future years shall see,
evermore and evermore!

O that birth forever blessed,
when the Virgin, full of grace,
by the Holy Ghost conceiving,
bore the Savior of our race;
and the babe, the world’s Redeemer,
first revealed his sacred face,
evermore and evermore!

This is he whom heav’n-taught singers
sang of old with one accord,
whom the Scriptures of the prophets
promised in their faithful word;
now he shines, the long expected;
let creation praise its Lord, 
evermore and evermore!

O ye heights of heav’n, adore him;
angel hosts, his praises sing:
all dominions, bow before him
and extol our God and King;
let no tongue on earth be silent,
ev’ry voice in concert ring, 
evermore and evermore!

Christ, to thee, with God the Father,
and, O Holy Ghost, to thee,
hymn and chant and high thanksgiving
and unwearied praises be,
honor, glory, and dominion
and eternal victory,
evermore and evermore!

Source: Hymnary

Remember Your Love (Lent)

Refrain: Remember your love and your faithfulness, O Lord. Remember your people and have mercy on us, Lord

  1. The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom should I fear?
    The Lord is my life and my refuge; when I call He hears.
  2. If you dwelt, O Lord, upon our sinfulness, then who could stand?
    But with You there is mercy and forgiveness and a guiding hand.
  3. O Lord, hear the sound of my call and answer me.
    My heart cries out for Your presence; it is You I seek.
  4. As sentinels wait upon the daylight, wait for the Lord.
    I trust in your kindness and redemption; and your faithful word.
  5. Before all the mountains were begotten and earth took shape,
    Even then, O Lord, You were our refuge throughout ev’ry age.

Source: Six Maddens

The strife is o’er (Easter)

The strife is o’er, the battle done;
the victory of life is won;
the song of triumph has begun.
Alleluia!

The powers of death have done their worst,
but Christ their legions has dispersed.
Let shouts of holy joy outburst.
Alleluia!

The three sad days are quickly sped;
he rises glorious from the dead.
All glory to our risen Head.
Alleluia!

He closed the yawning gates of hell;
the bars from heaven’s high portals fell.
Let hymns of praise his triumph tell.
Alleluia!

Lord, by the stripes which wounded thee,
from death’s dread sting thy servants free,
that we may live and sing to thee.
Alleluia!

Final Ending:
Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia! 

Source: Hymnary

Wait for the Lord (Advent)

Wait for the Lord, his day is near
Wait for the Lord, be strong take heart
Prepare the way for the Lord
Make a straight path for Him
The Glory of the Lord shall be revealed
All the Earth will see the Lord
Rejoice in the Lord always
He is at Hand
Joy and gladness for all who seek the Lord

Source: Hymnary

When the King shall come again (Advent)

When the King shall come again
all his power revealing,
splendor shall announce his reign,
life and joy and healing:
earth no longer in decay,
hope no more frustrated;
this is God’s redemption day
longingly awaited.

In the desert trees take root
fresh from his creation;
plants and flowers and sweetest fruit
join the celebration.
Rivers spring up from the earth,
barren lands adorning;
valleys, this is your new birth,
mountains, greet the morning!

Strengthen feeble hands and knees,
fainting hearts, be cheerful!
God who comes for such as these
seeks and saves the fearful.
Deaf ears hear the silent tongues
sing away their weeping;
blind eyes see the lifeless ones
walking, running, leaping.

There God’s highway shall be seen
where no roaring lion,
nothing evil or unclean
walks the road to Zion:
ransomed people homeward bound
all your praises voicing,
see your Lord with glory crowned,
share in his rejoicing!

Source: Jubilate

Choral Hymns

The sound of a full choir an be moving and inspirational. Here are selections of hymns for funerals that are meant to be sung by a choir.

Agnus Dei

Jesus, Lamb of God, 
Bearer of our sins,
have mercy on us,
have mercy on us.

Jesus, Lamb of God,
Savior of the world,
have mercy on us,
have mercy on us.

Jesus, Lamb of God,
Bread come down form heav’n,
have mercy on us,
have mercy on us.

Jesus, Lamb of God,
Shepherd of our souls,
have mercy on us,
have mercy on us.

Jesus, Lamb of God,
gentle Prince of Peace,
grant us peace, grant us peace.
Grant us peace, grant us peace.

Source: Hymnary

Ave Maria

Ave Maria, gratia plena,
Dominus tecum, benedicta tu in mulieribus,
et benedictus fructus ventris tui, Jesus.
Sancta Maria, Mater Dei,
ora pro nobis peccatoribus,
nunc et in hora mortis nostrae. Amen.

Source: Hymnary

Ave Verum Corpus

Ave, verum Corpus natum de María Virgine:
Vere passum immolátum in cruce pro hómine:
Cujus latus perforátum fluxit aqua et sánguine:,
Esto nobis praegustátum mortis in exámine.
O Jesu dulcis!
O Jesu pie!
O Jesu fili Maríae.

Source: Hymnary

Give Rest O Christ

Give rest, O Christ,
to thy servant with thy saints,
where sorrow and pain are no more;
neither sighing, but life everlasting.

Thou only art immortal,
the Creator and Maker of man;
and we are mortal, formed of the earth,
and unto earth shall we return;
for so thou didst ordain
when thou createdst me, saying:
‘Dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.’
All we go down to the dust,
and, weeping o’er the grave we make our song:
Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.

Give rest, O Christ,
to thy servant with thy saints,
where sorrow and pain are no more;
neither sighing, but life everlasting.

Source: Hymnary

God Be in My Head

God be in my head,
and in my understanding;

God be in mine eyes,
and in my looking;

God be in my mouth,
and in my speaking;

God be in my heart,
and in my thinking;

God be at mine end,
and at my departing.

Source: Hymnary

God So Loved the World

God so loved the world.
God so loved the world, 
that He gave His only begotten Son, 
that whoso believeth, believeth in Him 
should not perish, should not perish 
but have everlasting life. 

For God sent not His Son into the world
to condemn the world. 
God sent not His Son into the world 
to condemn the world; 
But that the world through Him might be saved. 

God so loved the world. 
God so loved the world, 
that He gave His only begotten Son, 
that whoso believeth, believeth in Him 
should not perish, should not perish 
but have everlasting life, everlasting life,
everlasting, everlasting life.
God so loved the world. 
God so loved the world.
God so loved the world.

Source: Hymnary

How Lovely is Thy Dwelling Place

How lovely is your dwelling-place,
O Lord of hosts, to me;
my thirsting soul longs eagerly
within your courts to be.

Beside your altars, Lord of all,
the swallows find a nest;
happy are those who dwell with you
and praise you without rest;

And happy those whose hearts are set
upon the pilgrim ways:
you are the water when they thirst,
their guide towards your face.

How blest are they that in your house
for ever give you praise:
one day with you is better spent
than thousands in dark ways.

The Lord will hold back no good thing
from those who justly live;
to all who trust, the Lord of hosts
will all his blessings give.

Source: Hymnary

In Paradisum

In Paradísum dedúcant te ángeli:
in tuo advéntu suscípiant te mártyres,
et perdúcant te in civitátem sanctam Jerúsalem.
Chórus angelórum te suscípiat,
et cun Lázaro quondam páupere aetérnam
hábeas réquiem.

Source: Hymnary

My Shepherd will Supply my Need

My Shepherd, you supply my need,
most holy is your name;
in pastures fresh you make me feed,
beside the living stream.
You bring my wand’ring spirit back.
when I forsake your ways;
you lead me, for your mercy’s sake,
in paths of truth and grace.

When through the shades of death I walk,
your presence is my stay;
one word of your supporting breath
drives all my fears away.
Your hand in sight of all my foes,
does still my table spread;
my cup with Blessings overflows,
your oil anoints my head.

Source: Hymnary

The Lord Is My Shepherd

The Lord is my shepherd,
I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures; 
he leads me beside the waters;
he restores my soul.
He leads me in right paths for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I fear no evil;
for you are with me; your rod and your staff – they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil, my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me 
all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord my whole life long.
Glory to the Father and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit;
as it was in the beginning, is now,
and will be forever. Amen.

Source: Hymnary

Thou Knowest, Lord, the Secrets

Thou knowest, Lord, the secrets of our hearts;
Shut not thy merciful ears unto our pray’rs;
But spare us, Lord most holy, O God most mighty.
O holy and most merciful Saviour,
Thou most worthy Judge eternal,
Suffer us not at our last hour,
For any pains of death to fall away from Thee.

Source: Emmanuel Music

FAQ

How do I choose a funeral hymn?

First, consider the wishes of the deceased. They may have been included in a funeral plan or mentioned to friends and family. They may also have a favorite hymn, which would be meaningful if it is played during the service. If no choice was made you can then start with the list provided or ask for assistance from family, friends, and even Church ministers.

Can I choose any hymn that I want?

No. Although, you are given some freedom to select a funeral hymn that you think would best fit the funeral service of your loved one, there are still certain parameters that the Church has set for an appropriate funeral hymn. Many churches have to approve the chosen funeral hymns first. In this case, it is best to ask for guidance from the minister, director of music, organist, professional cantor, or any other person leading the music of the funeral liturgy.

What is the difference between traditional hymns and modern hymns?

Traditional funeral hymns often have lyrics that are “about” God, while modern funeral hymns are often addressed “to” God as if the worshipper is speaking to God directly.

Conclusion

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How to Write a Funeral Eulogy – Complete Guide with Examples

Introduction

When you are grieving, it is hard to process your thoughts and emotions, let alone put into words how you feel about your lost loved one.

In this article, we will look at the elements of a eulogy and break it down into parts that are easy to understand. We hope this will serve as a practical step-by-step guide to writing a eulogy that gives you confidence to express your thoughts.

What Is a Funeral Eulogy? 

Pen on a notebook

A eulogy is a speech that tells the life story of the deceased. It is usually delivered at a funeral or memorial service as a way to honor and praise them. 

Family members or close friends are usually chosen to deliver the eulogy. If the deceased has many family members and friends, multiple eulogies can be delivered during the service.

Difference between Eulogy, Elegy, and Obituary

Many people mix up the terms eulogy, obituary, and elegy. However, they have important distinctions. 

An obituary is an announcement of the deceased together with some biographical information that acts as a snippet of one’s life. It is often published in a local newspaper and/or posted online.

On the other hand, an elegy is a song or a poem used to mourn the dead. 

As noted earlier, eulogies are speeches performed during the service that praise the deceased.

Parts of A Eulogy

A good eulogy captures the essence of the deceased and how they lived. It tells the life story of the person, including the lives they touched, the accomplishments they made, and any stories that help to paint a vivid picture of the person’s life.

Details to Include in a Eulogy

Below is a road map to the structure of a eulogy. As you look at the broad sections think about details that you want to include along the way. Here is a list of ideas:

  • introduce yourself and your relationship
  • birth date and location of the deceased
  • nicknames and aliases (some people may know them by a different name)
  • where and how the person grew up
  • close family and important people who influenced the deceased
  • how they met their partner or significant other
  • accomplishments, achievements, and awards
  • education
  • sports prowess
  • contributions to the community and society
  • favorite writings, teachings, or songs
  • clubs and organizations
  • military service
  • milestones achieved
  • leadership roles
  • humorous anecdotes
  • names of close family members
  • acknowledgement of important guests (and those that traveled far)

Introduction

Depending on the group it may be a good idea to introduce yourself and your relationship to the person who died.

Keep in mind hat the introduction of the eulogy will set the tone and introduce the theme of how you want to portray the life story of the deceased.

At this point, keep the eulogy very simple to understand. Just keep it personal and conversational. There’s no need for you a formal speech. A eulogy will simply serve as a heartfelt appreciation for the person who died. And it is your unique perspective so there are no wrong answers.

Body

The body will be the most detailed part of a eulogy. This is where you will further expound on the personality of the deceased, elaborating on your main point in the introduction.

For instance, if you’d like to center your speech around the kindness of the person, this is where you tell those stories that exemplify the generous heart of the deceased. 

The stories and anecdotes you provide here will have more impact if they are vivid and insightful. Do you have a story that shows a side of the deceased that is not well known? It helps to recall how you felt when the story took place and offer your unique perspective. One simple way to structure the body is to progress through the person’s life and milestones in chronological order. This way it is easy to follow along.

Conclusion

The conclusion is essentially a short summary of the introduction and body. You can tie your thoughts together by emphasizing what made the person special to you.

Take care with the final thought. The last sentence can have a lasting impact on the listeners because it is your last statement in honoring the deceased. One idea is to close the eulogy by directly addressing the deceased. I was recently moved by the last thought of a eulogy when the son simply said “I love you Dad.”

How To Write a Eulogy 

Pen and Paper

There is no master template on how to write a eulogy. The guide and samples you will find here are some essential information that can help you start the writing process. It gives a general overview of what to expect, so you don’t embark on the task blindly.

Also, it is normal to experience having your thoughts blocked, especially at a time of devastating loss. You do not have to be extremely pressured about writing the best eulogy. It just has to come genuinely from what your heart tells you. You will find out that writing a eulogy can also be therapeutic. 

1. Write Your Ideas First

First, jot down some ideas on what you want to include in the eulogy. Think about some memories, stories, and thoughts that you think would best honor the person who died.

At this point, you do not have to overthink the structure of your eulogy. Just keep the ideas flowing. A common theme will emerge and you can narrow it down later on. 

You may include the highlights of their life, accomplishments, passions, hobbies, and other things that make them unique. You may also write some ideas about how the person made an impact on your life and others.

There is no need to rush this step and no need to feel pressure. In a sense, it is even best to let the ideas come out naturally.  You will simply need to call up memories, which is a good way to honor the deceased.

2. Decide on the Focus for Your Eulogy

After writing down your ideas, thoughts, and stories about the person, it is now time to think about the main focus of your eulogy. You may have written several stories and anecdotes.

The best guiding principle in narrowing down your ideas is to keep it personal to you and the person. Only include the details and ideas that had an impact on you and your relationship with them. This way you are telling your unique experience which will be revealing and interesting to the listeners.

3. Include Some Poems, Prayers, and Quotes

After narrowing down your ideas and stories for the eulogy, you may choose poems, prayers, and quotes that will add to your speech.

They readings could be directly inspired by the deceased or even be their favorite. This is a great option so you don’t have to rely on writing the entire eulogy. It also gives something familiar for listeners to relate to.

Use the readings to support the theme of your story. In choosing the best reading think about what would be meaningful to you or the person who died.

4. Finalize Your Eulogy

The last step for writing a eulogy is adding the finishing touches. At this stage, you can now choose an order for your stories, anecdotes, and quotes.

This is where you carefully decide the structure and the order of your eulogy. Review everything that you have written so far and finalize the stories, poems, or other thoughts that you want to keep. 

There is no required limit for the length of a eulogy. Many funeral homes allow you to speak as long as you want to. A common range is 5 to 10 minutes.

5. Practice Delivering Your Eulogy

The final step is to practice your eulogy. It can be difficult to deliver a eulogy because of overwhelming emotions. By practicing prior to the funeral, you can help yourself in making it easier for you to deliver the speech.

Consider timing, enunciation, volume, and inflection and delivery. Rehearse it several times. There is no need to memorize your speech. Just make sure you feel comfortable in delivering it. The more you prepare the more comfortable you will be.

Remember that you are giving your eulogy as a way to honor the deceased. Even if you feel that it is too daunting or difficult, just remember your relationship with the person and how your eulogy would be a good way to honor their memory. There is no need to be profound…just genuine and naturally yourself.

Eulogy Poem Ideas 

Here are some samples of poems to read at funerals. You can find a far more comprehensive list in our funeral poems article.

When I am dead, my dearest by Christina Rossetti

When I am dead, my dearest,
Sing no sad songs for me;
Plant thou no roses at my head,
Nor shady cypress tree:
Be the green grass above me
With showers and dewdrops wet;
And if thou wilt, remember,
And if thou wilt, forget.

I shall not see the shadows,
I shall not feel the rain;
I shall not hear the nightingale
Sing on, as if in pain:
And dreaming through the twilight
That doth not rise nor set,
Haply I may remember,
And haply may forget.

Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep By Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep

 I am not there; I do not sleep.

 I am a thousand winds that blow,

 I am the diamond glints on snow,

 I am the sun on ripened grain,

 I am the gentle autumn rain.

 When you awaken in the morning’s hush

 I am the swift uplifting rush

 Of quiet birds in circled flight.

 I am the soft stars that shine at night.

 Do not stand at my grave and cry,

 I am not there; I did not die.

Eulogy Prayer Ideas

Below are some scriptures you could add to your eulogy.

Psalms 23

A Psalm of David.
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters.
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil, for you are with me;
Your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life,
And I shall dwell in the house of the LORD forever.

Ecclesiastes 3

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:

 a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.

Funeral Eulogy Examples

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Here are some great examples of touching eulogies. Hopefully these samples will inspire your writing and help you understand the structure—and lack thereof—of eulogies.

Funeral Eulogy for Grandma

Source: Rebecca Solnit from her book The Faraway Nearby

From my earliest memories, she is right by my side, taking me on walks through the miniature golf course near our house, dutifully preparing my odd lunch requests for cheddar and mayo sandwiches and sneaking me Almond Joy candy bars away from the gaze of my mom.

I was so close to my grandma that around the age of 23 I grew increasingly anxious that she might not live to attend my wedding unless I hurried up. Well … she did live to attend that wedding, and also to witness my first divorce, my second marriage, and to know and love my two children. She liked Jeff from the beginning and one day before we were engaged, she boldly told him, “Well, you better put a ring on it!” quoting Beyoncé without knowing the reference.

The most remarkable qualities about my grandma as she aged were her gratitude and her humility. She often told me to live for myself and not worry about her — to work, focus on my family, and come visit when I had time. She loved every minute of our visits but never pushed for more.

I once asked her if I should have a third child and she replied, “Why, honey? You already have the perfect family.” The most important things to my grandma were family and faith; she didn’t care for material possessions. In fact, she was known for giving items away because “there was someone who was more in need.” This selflessness and service for others leave a legacy that I will try to model for my children. Time with her family was the greatest gift and even with that, she was not greedy.

I am deeply thankful to our family who cared for, loved her, and relished spending time with my grammie as she aged. Knowing she had Adie to take her to church and lunch every Sunday punctuated her week with a joyful event she truly looked forward to. Dave and Aileen always arrived with a box of her favorites See’s Candies, essentially confirming the Pavlovian model as she began to drool as soon as they walked in the door. And to my mom, who cared for my grandma for the last 10 years of her life with compassion and unrivaled duty. I thank her not only for giving back to her mom, but for modeling care and respect for our elders.

“When my friends began to have babies and I came to comprehend the heroic labor it takes to keep one alive, the constant exhausting tending of a being who can do nothing and demands everything, I realized that my mother had done all of these things for me before I remembered. I was fed; I was washed; I was clothed; I was taught to speak and given a thousand other things, over and over again, hourly, daily, for years. She gave me everything before she gave me nothing.”

Funeral Eulogy For Dad

Source: Write Out Loud

First I would like to thank all of you for your support. It means so much to us all.

 Vincent was my father but he was also father to Donna, Joey, John Sr., Miriam, Harel, and Alex, and Grandfather to John Jr. Alison, Hailey, Kayla, Jake, Lila and Carissa, plus Uncle to many nieces and nephews here with us today.

 We all have memories of Vincent. I want to share some of my most precious childhood memories with you now.

 The most fun I had with him was staying up all night playing video games, watching hockey together, walking to Smoke Stax down the block and racing home, and painting Christmas ornaments with him. Getting a ride on my Dad’s motorcycle was also the coolest!

 But what I cherished most about my Dad was that he also loved animals. If a person found any hurt animal they knew my Dad would help them.

 Hopefully you all had a chance to look at the college pictures. Not to sound weird but when I saw his high school picture I was like, “Wow! Dad was hot!”

 My Mom didn’t stand a chance! They met when my Mom was 16 and my Dad was 19. My beautiful Mom was waiting at a bus stop with her friends. My Dad, riding in a car with his friends, noticed the girls and asked if they wanted a ride. Of course no one takes rides with strangers, right kids?! So they said no.

 Then one of my Dad’s friends said to my Mom, “Vinny LaManna wants to talk to you!” and my Mom said, “Tell Vinny LaManna to go fly a kite!”

 Maybe not exactly those words but you know what I’m saying. Well, that’s all my stubborn Italian Dad had to hear and he said “I have to meet that girl!”

 My Mom and her friends took the bus to an ice cream parlor not knowing that the boys had followed them. Once they got inside the ice cream parlor Dad pulled my Mom into a booth and my Mom saw those piercing green eyes and dark hair. She didn’t stand a chance.

 They were married for 51 years and when they moved into their first apartment all they had to eat for dinner was a hard boiled egg which they shared. They worked, making honest livings as bus drivers and we were proud. They provided all they could. They made sure we always had the presents we wanted on Christmas and the feeling of love was always there.

 My father was an old fashioned Italian who struggled with showing emotions. Growing up with him was not always easy. Most of the time I just wanted to slap him in the back of the head and say, like Cher from Moonstruck, “Snap out of it”!

 I know my Dad loved us but unfortunately he didn’t know how to show us. With all of that, I have learned a very valuable lesson from my father. I will not live in fear or anger. I will love and I will grow and I will not let something like age tell me I can’t learn something new or do something I enjoy.

 When I make a mistake I will forgive myself and not live in regret. I’ve decided to take him on that journey with me because I know he would be proud and think, I’m nuts but, that’s what life is about – love, learning, growing, pushing for more. That’s what he taught me and I will not let him down. I want to experience the things he couldn’t.

 Again thank you to our family and friends for your support.

 Dad we love you…

Funeral Eulogy for Mom

Source: John Rofrano Jr.

I know that Mom is smiling upon us today because she always smiled when her family was gathered together. Family was at the core of who mom was. She wasn’t much for social events, she wasn’t much for politics, she didn’t watch soap operas, she just cared and nurtured her family in the best way she knew how. Every Sunday she would get up early to attend Mass so that she could come home and start cooking the Sunday dinner by 9:00AM. A big pot of gravy could be found on the stove cooking, and cooking, and cooking. Somehow, Dad would always manage to steal a few fried meatballs before they made it to gravy. On special occasions she would make homemade macaroni. In fact, the whole family would make homemade ravioli with each family member having their own job to do in a giant assembly line that started in the kitchen and ended on a white floured sheet in the bedroom.

To Mom, food was love. When I asked her grandchildren for memories of their grandmother, they all agreed that the three words most often used by grandma were, “Eat, eat, eat”. That was her way of saying, “I love you, I love you, I love you”. She could whip up a gourmet meal on a moments notice out of just what was in the refrigerator and proclaim, “oh it’s so simple to do”. So many of the memories they had of her where about food and therefore about her love. Love for her husband, and her children and her grandchildren and great-grandchildren. The pizzelles, the home-made ravioli, the polenta, the spaghetti alio ulio, the cheesecake, the Easter bread, the Christmas cookies, and the list goes on and on. Mom sure knew how to cook up a lot of love.

We should remember today not to mourn her passing but to celebrate her life. Her life as a loving grandmother and great-grandmother to so many of you sitting here. Her life as a mother who did her best to guide her children in the right direction. Her life as a dedicated wife and companion of 56 years to Dad who loved her just as deeply. I know that Mom & Dad loved to dance and today I am sure they are together again dancing in heaven. Let us be happy for them and for the privilege to have known our mom, Antoinette Rofrano, and have been touched by her life.

FAQ


What do I include in a funeral eulogy?

Add stories, memories, and anecdotes that had an impact on you and your relationship with the person. Just remember to keep it personal since this is the best way for you to fully capture the essence of their character.
You may also include poems, prayers, and quotes as long as it is meaningful to you and the person who died.

How do I begin a funeral eulogy?

Begin with an introduction that describes the person’s character. You may start with the memories you had with the person, delivered in descriptive details. It is also good to establish your relationship with the deceased during this part.

Who delivers the eulogy in a funeral?

Usually, family members or close friends are tasked to deliver a funeral eulogy.

How long should a funeral eulogy take?

Although there is no limit, a good range for the speaking time is about 5 to 10 minutes. However, there isn’t really a time limit for eulogies. You can take as long as you want. Bear in mind that you want to hold the listener’s attention.

What tone should my eulogy speech take?

There is no right answer. Eulogies are generally in offered in praise of the deceased. The tone may be dictated by the deceased and they way they lived their life or may be a reflection of the person giving the eulogy. If you are genuine and natural the message will be received well. Death is a solemn time of reflection, but humor is also a wonderful tool and can be appropriate even in a eulogy.

Conclusion

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Wicker Caskets: Complete Guide, Costs & Where to Buy

Wicker Caskets: Complete Guide, Costs & Where to Buy

Introduction

Wicker caskets are eco-friendly burial containers woven from natural materials like willow, bamboo, and seagrass. These biodegradable coffins typically cost between $800 and $2,100—significantly less than traditional caskets—making them an affordable choice for green funerals. They’re strong enough to support 330+ pounds, suitable for viewings and ceremonies, and accepted by most cemeteries, though you’ll need to verify your cemetery’s specific requirements regarding vaults or grave liners.

Key factors when choosing a wicker casket include the material type (willow is most common, bamboo is fastest to renew), size requirements, whether your cemetery allows natural burial containers, and your budget. These handwoven coffins decompose naturally in the soil, leaving minimal environmental impact compared to metal or hardwood caskets.

We know it’s very hard to find online sellers that offer wicker caskets—much less at a reasonable price. If you want to skip to the recommendation, we review Titan Casket and alternatives later in the article.

Note: In this article, we use the word “casket” and “coffin” interchangeably. To find out how their meanings differ, you can read more about coffins vs caskets.

What Is a Wicker Casket?

A wicker casket is a burial coffin made of woven materials, most commonly willow, seagrass, and bamboo. Unlike a traditional-looking coffin made of solid wood or metal, wicker caskets resemble a basket with natural-looking finishes.

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Trivia: Wicker is actually not a material. It is an ancient weaving technique of making products from plant materials. In fact, it is considered the oldest furniture-making technique, dating back to Ancient Egypt (using reed, cane, and rattan).

wicker rattan seat of motorcycle

Wicker from reed, cane, rattan, and other materials has been used over the centuries to make all sorts of different things.

Wicker coffins are usually handmade. Moreover, their source materials do not need heavy machinery for harvesting. Because of this, wicker caskets have a minimal carbon footprint.

Although they is biodegradable, wicker caskets are rigid and sturdy. They are also strong and can carry up to 330 lbs / 150 kg in weight.

Lastly, wicker caskets are absolutely suitable for viewings and ceremonies. The natural-looking finish make them a presentable and beautiful final resting place for your loved one.

Types of Wicker Coffins

There are usually three types of wicker caskets to choose from:

  • Bamboo
  • Seagrass
  • Willow
  • Banana Leaf

Banana leaf wicker caskets are the least common.

Willow Caskets

  • willow tree

This is the most common variant of a wicker casket. Willow is a sustainable material; a single strand can grow for up to 8 feet in length. Moreover, one can harvest a willow from the same crown for up to sixty years.

Bamboo Coffins

  • bamboo wicker casket

Source: Passages International

Bamboo coffins are handcrafted from a highly renewable material. In fact, bamboo is the fastest growing plant in the world. It can grow for up to 3-4 feet a day. This makes bamboo coffins the most sustainable casket option.

Please note the picture above makes bamboo coffin appear boxy and square. Though some are, you’re just as likely to see bamboo coffins with rounded designs similar to the following picture of the seagrass casket.

Seagrass Casket

  • seagrass coffin

Source: Natural Endings

  • seagrass

Seagrass caskets are made of an abundant source material found underwater. Usually, the seagrass is wound into rope and then woven into the casket. The finished product is a casket with a natural finish and a beautiful color of cream and light brown.

Common Questions About Wicker Caskets

Are wicker caskets strong enough?

Despite their woven appearance, wicker caskets are remarkably sturdy. Quality models can support 330-350 pounds and use wooden reinforcements at joints and the base.

Can you see through the weave?

No. Wicker caskets include a thin wood backing or liner beneath the woven exterior, plus an interior fabric lining that ensures complete privacy.

Are wicker caskets suitable for viewing?

Yes. Wicker caskets work well for viewings and ceremonies. Many models offer partial or full viewing lids.

Will cemeteries accept wicker caskets?

Most cemeteries accept them, but some require burial vaults or have specific material restrictions. Always confirm cemetery requirements before purchasing.

What Are the Benefits Of a Wicker Coffin?

A wicker casket has its fair share of advantages. Overall, it is:

  • Eco-friendly
  • Available in various styles and colors
  • Extremely affordable

Eco-Friendly

The best and most obvious benefit of using a wicker casket is that it will return to the environment. It will decompose in the soil much faster than standard types of caskets.

Even compared to wood, it will decompose much faster because of its material and increased surface area.

Available In Various Styles

plain casket with spray

wicker coffin with sunflower spray

rainbow wicker casket

bamboo coffin with different style

Green willow weave coffin

Source: The Coffin Company (A Great Source of Wicker Coffins!)

Willow coffins are available in a variety of designs, styles, and shapes. They are also available in a wide range of colors.

You can add a personal touch to a wicker casket. For instance, you can add a flower arrangement. Flowers resting on top of the casket are called casket sprays. It can also decorated according to your loved one’s personality.

Price (Very Affordable)

Other than the benefit of potentially saving the planet, using wicker caskets also promise an economic advantage. That is, you can save a lot of money by buying wicker coffins rather than traditional caskets.

weaving process diy program

One course, reported by ITV, teaches students how to build their own wicker caskets, a process that is commonly (and effectively) used as a grieving process. Or you can build your own and use it as a bookshelf or other decoration, decades before you…well, really need it.

According to this Do It Green study, the whole package of a green funeral (which typically uses a biodegradable casket such as wicker) ranges from $2,500 to $4,000. This may seem a lot but when you compare it to the average cost of a traditional burial, which is $7,640, a funeral that uses a wicker coffin is much cheaper.

How Much Is A Wicker Casket?

I’ve seen prices as low as $300 USD, but most are higher. If you purchase a wicker casket, expect a number around $1,650. However, most options fall between $1,100 and $1,800. This will vary depending on the size of the casket, its design, and whether the materials are sourced locally or from overseas.

We review the best place to buy wicker caskets later in the article.

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Cemetery Requirements and Green Burial Compatibility

A wicker casket’s eco-friendly benefits depend partly on where it’s buried. For natural or green burial grounds, wicker caskets are ideal—they’re fully biodegradable and meet strict material requirements (no metal parts, toxic finishes, or synthetic fabrics).

However, traditional cemeteries may require concrete vaults or grave liners, which reduces the environmental benefit even when using a biodegradable casket. Before purchasing, confirm:

  • Does the cemetery require a vault or liner?
  • Are there restrictions on natural materials or woven caskets?
  • What liner materials are permitted (some ban synthetic fabrics)?

Wicker caskets are also suitable for cremation, as they’re made entirely from combustible natural materials without metal components.

Where Can I Buy A Wicker Coffin?

There are three options: the funeral home, online retailers, or local businesses. The latter is unlikely, so we will focus on the first two.

Note: The Funeral Rule states you can purchase caskets from anywhere and your local funeral home must accept the casket without charging an acceptance or delivery fee. The also cannot require you to be present for delivery.

Funeral Home

You can check with your funeral provider if they offer wicker caskets. In preparing for a funeral service, usually, the funeral director will give you a General Price List first before showing you the available caskets. Make sure to tell the funeral director that you are specifically interested in a wicker casket, as wicker caskets are not commonly displayed in showrooms.

Online

The best option is to purchase a wicker casket online. When we first published this article in late 2019, we could not find a single retailer in the United States who sold direct to consumers. However, our favorite online casket seller now offers wicker caskets! Really, we recommend Titan Casket for almost all types of caskets.

We like them for many reasons, including great prices, quality products, free shipping, and extremely simple purchasing process.

Bamboo

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Seagrass

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Willow

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These products have an option of 6′ 5″ or 5′ 9″ (that’s six feet five inches or five feet nine inches). If you are uncertain which to choose, read our guide to oversized caskets.

Titan Casket’s wicker caskets are suitable for wakes, viewing, cremation. They are certified Fair Trade and eco-friendly (decomposable). Read more about sustainability in their product descriptions.

Buying caskets online ensures that you have a wide variety to choose from. (Read our buyer’s guide to casket prices to compare options.) You can also make sure if they offer 100% natural and biodegradable caskets by checking the product details thoroughly, as well as reviewing the certifications that they have.

For readers in the UK, we recommend you investigate the Coffin Company, a UK-based business with a wide selection of green caskets for both burial and cremation.

Another option for residents of the UK is Sussex Willow Coffins. They create hand crafted eco-friendly coffins and sell wholesale and directly to consumers. Hand woven at a small workshop in the heart of the Sussex countryside, these wicker caskets are certified for cremation (by FFMA) as well as being well suited to natural burial and green funerals.

The Green Burial Council recommends Passage International, Inc. as a certified distributor. Unfortunately, they do not sell directly to consumers. If your local funeral home offers Passage International caskets, it are a great choice.

Wicker Caskets in Green Burial

Natural Woven Coffins (Another great choice to buy a wicker coffin!)

A green burial honors the idea of decomposition and allowing the body return to nature. That is, “ashes to ashes and dust to dust.”

Green burials are minimalistic, using as few (sustainable) resources as possible. This is in contrast to the conventional burials that make use of highly sophisticated caskets made of expensive wood or precious metals.

Before the 20th century, caskets were usually just plain wooden boxes. Now, they have become fully-manufactured and elaborate caskets made of expensive materials.

The very same cycle that caused individuals to move away from the finality of death—to add pillows, lining, and other decorations to make it looked as if the deceased were sleeping—has looped around as more and more people find the idea of using an expensive coffin for only a short term as wasteful.

In response, more and more people choose caskets that are sustainable and environment-friendly. Wicker caskets, pine box caskets, burial shrouds, and cardboard caskets are all great choices.

Trivia: In 2019, the NFDA conducted a Consumer Awareness and Preferences Study and found that over half (51.6%) of respondents said that they would be interested in “green” funeral options because of their environmental and cost-saving benefits.**

Cremation

Wicker caskets can also be used in cremation. You can learn more about the different types of cremation caskets and why wicker qualifies.

FAQ

**Can I use a wicker casket for cremation?**

Yes. Wicker caskets are suitable for cremation because it does not have metallic components and they is easily combustible.

**Are wicker caskets cheaper than wooden caskets?**

Yes. Wicker caskets are generally cheaper because they are made of low-cost materials compared to wooden coffins. Some wooden coffins are from pricey hardwood like oak and mahogany. However, some wooden caskets that are plain like a simple pine box can be just as cheap as a wicker casket.

What is a wicker coffin?

A wicker coffin is a casket made of woven materials such as bamboo, willow, or seagrass. Though some wicker furniture is also made from cane, reeds, and rattan, these materials are rarely used in coffins.

Can I be buried in a wicker casket?

Yes. You can be buried in a cemetery that allows for natural burial. Most do, but you should take note that all cemeteries will have their own policies. With this, it is best to contact the cemetery operators beforehand.

How much does a wicker casket cost?

If you purchase a wicker casket, it’ll probably be about $1,650. Most options fall between $1100 and $1,800. This will vary depending on the size of the casket, its design, and whether the materials are sourced locally or from overseas.

Conclusion

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Pine Box Caskets: Complete Guide

Introduction

If you are looking for a simple, affordable, and eco-friendly coffin, a pine casket (or pine box) is your best option.

Here we have gathered everything you need to know about pine caskets: source material, price range, benefits, where you can buy one, and how you can make one yourself.

Note: In this article, we use the word “casket” and “coffin” interchangeably. To find out how their meanings differ, you can read this comprehensive article to caskets vs coffins

What Is a Pine Casket?

A pine casket is a traditional and inexpensive option for coffins because of its plain design. These caskets are sourced from the wood of pine trees and are cheaper than coffins made of either wood and steel. Moreover, pine caskets have cultural significance for both religious and economic use.

Source Material

Pine forest

Wooden caskets have two different types: those made of softwood (where pine trees belong) and hardwood (the more expensive option).

  • Hardwood – This is the type of solid wood from flowering trees. It typically includes walnut, maple, and oak trees. Hardwood is usually heavyweight and harder than softwood.
  • Softwood – This comes from conifer and evergreen trees that produce cones needle-shaped leaves. Softwood trees include spruce and pine trees. This wood is generally lighter and softer compared to hardwood.

Caskets that are made of pine trees are generally less expensive because their wood type is common. Pine caskets usually have no exteriors, final coating, linings, and other accessories—as opposed to modern caskets that are elaborate, with metallic decorations and varnish.

If you want a more decorated casket that still has a wooden feel, read our article about caskets made from barn wood.

Why Choose a Pine Box Casket?

There are many benefits in using a pine casket for your funeral service. They include…

  • Low Cost
  • Environment-friendly

The one situation in which pine caskets are not best is if you plan to have a wake, viewing, or visitation. Compared to hardwood (even veneer) or steel caskets, even more expensive pine boxes are plain and stark.

A pine box is the perfect choice for you or your loved one if…

  • You do not prioritize the visual appearance of the coffin
  • You are looking for something simple and economical
  • You want something Green and biodegradable

Learn more about different types of caskets and compare prices of those different prices using our compendium of casket prices (plus a price calculator tool).

Pine Box Cremation Caskets

Because pine caskets are wooden and relativity inexpensive, they are a popular choice to use as a cremation container. While it may be strange to think that you need a casket to be cremated, it is necessary to respectfully handle a body. They range from simple shrouds to caskets much more elaborate than pine boxes. Read the article to learn more.

Economic benefit

Fiddlehead casket company white pine coffin
Source: Fiddlehead Casket Company

A pine casket is cheap because it is made of inexpensive wood material. Other caskets such as ones made of mahogany, bronze, or copper can cost up to $10,000 (Federal Trade Commission).

Nicer pine coffins are almost always cheaper than even the plainest steel or hardwood coffins.

Notice the seam in the wood above (the one that divides the top panel into two halves). That is a half couch casket, which is uncommon for simpler pine caskets.

Eco-friendly advantage

Simple Pine Coffin in Green Forest Funeral
Source: The New York Times

Pine caskets are now at the frontier of green and natural burial (one that is simple and environment-friendly). It is a great alternative to bedecked caskets that are mass-produced by large manufacturing plants.

Another great option for a green casket is wicker coffins.

According to the Green Burial Council, U.S. cemeteries consume over 20 million board feet of hardwood and 90,000 tons of steel for caskets alone each year. Adding to that, the manufacturing of burial vaults use up to 17,000 tons of steel and copper, as well as 1.6 million tons of reinforced concrete.

Traditional burial produces 250 lbs. of carbon, whereas green burial sequesters 25 lbs. of carbon.” (Green Burial Council)

“This assumes a 50 year life cycle of the plot, that traditional burial uses a concrete burial vault, and green burial has no maintenance (mowing, fertilizing, watering, etc.). To put this in context, this difference is equivalent to the carbon produced by an average American’s driving over a 3 month period.” (Green Burial Council)

Because pine caskets use fewer resources, they are more sustainable for the environment. Pine trees are also abundant in the U.S. and grow faster than alternative trees.

I’ll tell you what I really want — it’s very easy: Ashes to ashes and dust to dust. I want a plain pine box. No, not plywood with all the glue and formaldehyde. I want a plain wooden box, one that will return naturally to the soil, as I’d like to do…That’s the way I want to go — that’s the way I want to come back again — as nourishment for a beckoning flower.

Lisa Carlson, 1994

How Much Does a Pine Coffin Cost?

For a basic pine casket, prices start around $500. From there, finishing touches—including interior lining, bedding, or any personalizing—all add to the price. Still, this is far cheaper than the average price of caskets which is a little more than $2,000.

Where to Buy Pine Caskets

You can buy caskets almost anywhere (or even build one yourself). As with all caskets, we recommend buying one online.

We recommend Titan Casket, if you can’t find a local option. We like them for many reasons, including great prices, quality products, free shipping, extremely easy purchasing process, and their caskets are made in the USA.

Titan Eco I

Econ Pine Box Casket

Titan Eco II

Titan Eco Pine Box II

Titan’s Eco Series is suitable for green and Jewish funerals.

Though relatively new to the market, there are also more sophisticated pine boxes—half couch and absolutely suitable for a funeral service and viewing.

Lancaster Traditional Pine Box

Funeral homes

According to the FTC Funeral Rule, a funeral home cannot refuse a casket you bought elsewhere—may it be from a local casket store, an online shop, or anywhere else.

If you want the most convenient way to purchase a casket, this can be arranged by the funeral provider handling the burial services. However, funeral homes rarely display pine caskets. The best thing to do is to ask specifically for pine coffins.

They also cannot charge you any fee if you do so, or require you to be present upon the casket’s delivery to them.

Tip: More on The Funeral Rule, one of its provisions is that the funeral director is required to provide you a price list first before showing you the sample caskets. This helps you to choose according to your budget. This is also a good opportunity to ask to see the pine box first.

Local Woodworkers

Local Woodworker constructing casket
Source: Huddle

By commissioning a local woodworker to make a simple pine casket, you can have it customized according to your liking.

Some casket-makers can add shelves to the coffin so it can be turned into a bookcase until its final use. Other woodworkers also make use of fallen trees and repurpose them accordingly.

Tapping a woodworker to build your casket gives you more freedom to choose the design, materials, and cost while also supporting your local community.

Online Retailers

You can freely buy caskets apart from the funeral provider. In this digital age, online retailers of caskets have become widespread. Even Costco and Walmart offer competitive prices for caskets.

A large number of website means you can browse online for pine coffins and check available options according to your budget. We recommend starting at Titan Caskets, specifically their pine offering. You can also have it directly shipped to your funeral home for your convenience.

Tip: Sometimes, a funeral provider will recommend you should be present when the coffin you bought elsewhere is delivered to the funeral home, adding that it is a precautionary measure for when a casket arrives with damages. This is unnecessary.

Double-check if the combined price of the casket you want to buy online and the delivery charges would still cost less than buying from a local casket retailer.

Do It Yourself (DIY)

You can always build a coffin yourself if you want to. You can search online for guides on how to build your own pine box from scratch. There are also DIY kits if you want more structure. They make it surprisingly easy assemble a pine casket of your own.

Many families find the process of building a casket is an effective way to grieve.

Traditional Use

Before the people got used to living in the 20th century, caskets looked simpler. They were handmade by the local carpenter or sourced from the furniture store.

It was also during these times when funeral arrangements were straightforward and low-cost. The funeral took place at the home of the deceased. The majority of these plain handmade caskets were made of cheap pine. Times were simpler.

Traditional coffin with cross

Culturally and historically, pine caskets are attributed to budget coffins that people use if they cannot afford a more expensive material.

Individuals looking to show off their wealth would have coffins made of yew or mahogany with ornate decorations, fine lining, and velvet drapes.

Pine Caskets in Jewish Funerals

Pallbearers carry coffin to cemetery plot
Suit clad pallbearers carry a casket to its resting place in a cemetery plot. The picture is black and white. The men all wear black suits. Lots of shadows are cast, as the men carry the coffin across the grass of the cemetery. The picture speaks of death and grief.

In the Jewish culture, the deceased is usually buried in a plain wooden box. The purpose of this religious tradition allows for natural decomposition.

That’s why the casket should be completely biodegradable (which means no metal nails or handles). Pine caskets are usually described as “kosher” caskets, ones that are suitable for Jewish funerals.

If you’re planning to use a pine box casket for a Jewish funeral, double check the product description to make sure they don’t include steel nails.

FAQ

What is a pine casket?

It is a casket sourced from the wood of pine trees. It is usually simple and plain in design and is much cheaper than others made of hardwood and metal.

How much is a pine box casket?

A pine casket can cost about $500 and up depending on its finish. It is inexpensive because it’s made of cheap softwood material—as opposed to the more expensive hardwood counterpart sourced from sturdier trees such as mahogany and oak.

Why is pine used for caskets?

Pine trees are good resources to build caskets because it is a cheap and common wood. They are also highly renewable and abundant in the U.S. Because it is a sustainable material, those who opt for green burials choose pine boxes as their casket. It is also a good option for Jewish funerals that require simple wooden coffins.

Where can I buy pine caskets?

You can buy one from your funeral provider, third-party retailers, online retailers, as well as from your local woodworker. You can also build your own pine casket using DIY guides available online.

Conclusion

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Copper & Bronze Caskets

Introduction

To find the best choice for your loved one’s final resting place, consider the strongest materials available. Copper and bronze caskets are among the highest quality caskets on the market. Made of semi-precious metals, these caskets are beautiful, non-corrosive, and highly durable.

If you want a casket that is not only timeless and elegant but is also trusted for its strength and durability, a bronze or copper casket may be exactly what you’re looking for. (Gold caskets are another high-quality option.)

We recommend Titan Caskets, an online retailer with great prices. Skip down to our full review.

It is common to use the terms casket and coffin interchangeably. Every copper (or bronze) casket I have ever seen is a casket, not a coffin, by their formal distinction.

Caskets Made from Copper and Bronze

Bronze Casket from Midwest Casket Company
Source: Midwest Casket Company

These caskets are, of course, made of metal—but not just any metal. They are made of copper and bronze alloy and are virtually indestructible.

Both bronze and copper are corrosion resistant. Copper is one-third stronger than stainless steel. Bronze beats both; it is the strongest material commercially used in constructing caskets.

Patinated Statue of Liberty

Both bronze and copper will patina, a chemical reaction that forms a protective coating over the surface to prevent rust. The green-blue patina of copper is what gives the Statue of Liberty its iconic color—believe it or not, the statue used to be brown.

Copper and bronze caskets tend to be expensive. The raw material price can fluctuate and will be a factor in the overall price. While it seems like common sense that copper and bronze are more expensive than wood and stainless steel, most people wouldn’t guess copper is more expensive than bronze—especially as bronze is an alloy of copper.

That said, copper and bronze caskets are very similar in price depending on individual finishes.

These semiprecious metals result in caskets that are stronger than steel and last longer than wood. They are also more versatile in appearance because of the wide range of styles, designs, and colors.

Metal Caskets

Caskets made of bronze and copper fall under the wider category of metal caskets—those that are made of bronze, copper, stainless steel, and non-stainless steel.

Metal caskets are known for their ability to keep elements away from penetrating their interiors. Funeral providers often describe them as “protective” or “gasketed” caskets (or use the word “coffin”).

When a casket is referred to as gasketed, it means that it has a thick rubber gasket used to seal the casket after it is closed. This will then seal the enclosure of the lid, keeping any outside elements from entering. Gaskets are extremely common for steel caskets. Some retailers include them as standard. Wooden caskets can never be sealed or gasketed.

Gasketed caskets will not keep a body from decomposing, but the process will happen much slower than with wooden caskets. In conjunction with embalming, metal caskets can preserve a body many times longer than the wooden standard.

Many people find it best to use a sealed metal casket and are comforted by the level of strength and quality. Copper and bronze caskets are also available with elegant paint and lacquer finishes to further personalize the chamber. The casket interior may also vary according to the material, stitching, color, and plushness. Metal caskets are truly versatile.

Trivia: According to CNBC’s 2013 documentary “Death: It’s a Living”, metal caskets outsell their wood counterparts at a ratio of 4:1. This may come as no surprise since metal caskets—such as those made of bronze or copper—are more modern-looking.

One additional point regarding metal caskets.: when it is necessary to transport corpses internationally, often there are regulations in place requiring the casket to be hermetically sealed which means the casket is gasketed metal, not wood.

More on Bronze and Copper Caskets

Bronze Casket
Bronze Casket

Copper and bronze caskets are considered upmarket because of their high-end materials.

Of the 1.7 million caskets sold in 2007, the Casket & Funeral Supply Association of America estimates the following production of caskets according to type:

PercentageType of Casket
47.3%gasketed steel
17.8%hardwood
15.6%non-gasketed steel
10.8%cloth-covered caskets
4.0%stainless steel
2.2%copper or bronze
1.9%Infant & Children (14 and under)
less than 1%composite materials
Source: Casket & Funeral Supply Association of America 

The “Gauge” of Copper and Bronze

While most metal caskets are measured by gauge, copper, bronze, gold, and silver caskets have a different standard. If you are considering the purchase of a copper or bronze casket, take note that the metal components in the casket are measured by weight instead of by gauge (the measurement used in steel caskets).

If you find a copper or bronze casket with “32-oz.” in the product details, it means that the material weighed 32-oz per square foot. You may also see “48 oz”. As common sense would suggest, 32 oz is cheaper than 48 oz.

Curious about actual casket weights. Read our article where we answer: how much do caskets weigh?

Why Should I Choose a Copper Or Bronze Casket?

Aside from the top-quality features of durability and strength, these type of caskets have an edge for of the following reasons:

  1. They have a wide range of styles and designs.
  2. They allow for customization.
  3. They enable you to personalize a casket for your loved one.

Because bronze and copper caskets are in the higher price range, casket providers can and do offer a wider range of styles and options. Which provides more choices for you to honor your deceased loved one.

Some retailers even allow you to customize the final design of a bronze or copper casket in terms of molding, stamps, interior, and other decorations. You can personalize it according to your deceased loved one’s interests and passions.

To learn more about the different parts of a casket and the interior panel, which is most often personalized, read our article.

How Much Are Bronze and Copper Caskets?

Due to the wide range of options and finishes, it is difficult to pin down a standard average price. Most bronze and copper caskets fall in a range from $3,600 to $10,000 or more. Certain online retailers can undercut these prices (including Titan Caskets) and some extremely high quality caskets will exceed $10,000.

The cost of copper and bronze caskets depend on the material, style, production method, and any protective features. To explore alternative options, read our complete guide to casket prices (including a compendium of average prices and free calculator).

The color and the material of the interior can also factor in the price. Obviously, it will cost more if you prefer to have it customized.

Tip: The FTC requires all funeral homes to provide a general price list of caskets. You can call to discuss prices over the phone, or have a copy sent to you. You may also set an appointment to see the available caskets yourself. Legally, the funeral director is are obliged to (offer to) give you a GPL before you enter the showroom.

Copper & Bronze Casket Cost Calculator

Technical Disclaimer: These estimates have been complied from extensive general price list sampling and regional and national pricing studies, including publicly available data provided by the NFDA. in Valhalla does not imply nor guarantee any caskets will be available from any seller at any of the estimated prices.

Wondering if you need an oversized casket for your loved one? Read our article about standard vs. oversized caskets.

Where Can I Buy Copper and Bronze Caskets?

Online retailers are invariably cheaper than funeral homes. We recommend Titan Caskets as our top choice for metal caskets.

There are plenty of options on where to buy bronze and copper caskets. You can choose to purchase one from your funeral provider, through an independent retailer, or an online supplier.

If you prefer to buy on Amazon, start here for bronze and here for copper caskets. The prices are surprisingly competitive!

Remember: Your funeral home is required to accept any casket that you bought elsewhere. They must not charge you any fee for doing so, nor can they require you to be present at its delivery.

Titan Caskets

Titan is an online business that specializes in manufacturing and shipping caskets. Their expertise means they can afford to offer prices much lower than funeral homes.

We have researched the options and feel that Titan offers the best product, customer service, and easiest experience. Use our research to save time, money, and energy. You can rely on Titan and remove stress from the process.

We like Titan Caskets for a few reasons:

  • Great Prices
  • Free 2-6 day shipping
  • Expedited shipping options
  • Totally Customizable (Try their Design Your Own Custom Casket tool)
  • Great Customer Service
  • Made in the USA

A few other notes:

  • They can deliver anywhere: residence, funeral home, or other facility.
  • Titan Caskets serve the lower 48 states of America.

Bronze Caskets

Bronze Orion Titan Casket
Bronze – Orion Series Panel Collection – Going Home

Copper Caskets

Copper Orion Titan Casket
Copper – Orion Series
https://youtu.be/sS9Xuuun10Q

Alternative Online Retailers

There are many online casket retailers to choose from. They offer the same (or better) quality caskets available in funeral homes, for significantly cheaper prices. Some of these online retailers can even deliver within 24 hours across the U.S.

Large online retailers such as Amazon, Costco, and Walmart even offer caskets, but they will have a limited selection. The ability to personalize the caskets will be minimal.

As you can imagine, the options are overwhelming. We recommend Titan.

Remember: Double-check the delivery details as well and see if the standard shipping time fits your needs. Order your casket as soon as possible in case of shipping delays.

Funeral Homes

You can buy a bronze or copper casket from your funeral provider. They are usually sourced from large casket manufacturers and have a wide variety of options available.

As most funeral homes have some number of caskets on-site, you don’t have to worry about shipping costs or travel time. These savings rarely balance their much higher prices, though.

FAQ

How much are copper and bronze caskets?

Copper and bronze caskets range in cost from $3,500 to $10,000 and can go much higher. Buying online is cheaper than funeral homes (as low as $1,000). Copper and bronze caskets are among the most expensive caskets because they are made of semiprecious metals. These coffins are also stronger than those made of steel.

Are metal caskets better than wooden caskets?

Aside from the difference in material, metal caskets are sealed, unlike wooden caskets. The air-tight seal will protect the remains of your loved one from outside elements like water and air for some time. The appearance is also different.
“Better” is a matter of choice. It really depends on your personal preference and if you are planning a green funeral. In this case you may consider wicker or pine box coffins.

What is the difference between copper and bronze caskets?

Bronze and copper caskets are both metal and considered the highest quality available. They are similar in style and price, the subtle variation is the base material itself. Bronze is actually the strongest material in constructing caskets. Both coffins are strong, durable, and elegant, and allow for elegant finishes and plenty of personal styles to choose from.

Can copper, bronze, or other metal caskets be used for cremation?

No, no metal can be cremated. This includes full-metal caskets all the way down to pine boxes with metal screws.

Conclusion

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Coffin Vs Casket – The Real Answer

Introduction

No need to waste time, we’ll get right into it. Prepare to learn the differences and similarities between caskets and coffins.

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What’s the Difference Between Caskets & Coffins?

The short answer is the shape: caskets are rectangular and coffins are hexagonal. Caskets have been more common in the US since the mid 19th century. Coffins were designed to be cheaper, but in the modern era you can find caskets and coffins with as much or as little decoration and ornamentation as you want.

A few notes

Only sticklers will correct anyone on the difference. Google searches, online stores, and most funeral homes will ignore any difference—in large part because few people would recognize the difference.

Legally, there is no difference between a coffin and a casket (the Federal Trade Commission uses only ‘casket’). Most Americans don’t recognize any difference as well.

We’ll be focusing on the terminology of ‘caskets’ and ‘coffins’ in the United States. The final section of the article will discuss international usage of the words.

Shape

The primary difference is one of shape and, consequently, appearance. The parts of a casket are quite similar, except for the half couch details (which we discuss below).

Caskets

Caskets are rectangular boxes. Often they will have handles on the sides and ends for carrying.

Caskets are more likely to have split doors—also called half couch, so that only the upper half of the body may be visible for viewing—than coffins. Almost all caskets have hinged doors. If you want to learn more, read our comparison of half couches vs. full couches.

Additionally, most caskets have memory tubes (aka casket vials).

Rectangle casket (not a coffin)

Coffins

The shape of coffins can be hexagonal and octagonal. Coffins ares sometimes described as anthropoidal, referencing the humanoid shape of the funeral box.

Coffins are often hexagonal in shape, designed to best fit the shape of the human figure. They can also be octagonal.

Because the shoulders of a person are wider than at the feet, historically builders of caskets have saved wood, metal, and other materials by removing the unnecessary space you’d find in a casket.

Few caskets have hinged doors, and fewer still (if any) are half couch. Also, coffins are less likely to have memory tubes than caskets because more coffins are biodegradable.

In the UK, often caskets are designed with a single piece of curved wood per side. Though technically four-sided, the shape is still hexagonal and some space is saved.

UK coffin with rounded edges
An oak veneer casket from UK-based Heart and Soul Funerals.

Price

The origins of the casket-coffin difference evolved as casket makers (which date back all the way to Egyptian sarcophagi) tried to save materials by building boxes more closely shaped to those they buried or cremated. For a buyer’s guide to caskets, we provide a much more practical article.

Caskets

Caskets are rectangular boxes built in a variety of sizes to fit the person they are going to enclose. There are standard size coffins designed with internal engineering to support different weights.

Each dimension—length, width, and height—of any casket will exceed (unless custom-built) the dimensions of the enclosed person. The widest the shoulders get will be the width for the entire casket. Taller height for obese corpses will be the height for the entire casket (this dimension is not improved with coffins). Longer legs and overall height extend the length of the casket as well.

All these dimension together leave lots of empty space in a rectangular casket. Though simpler to produce, empty space is wasted space.

Coffins

Coffins are designed to use less material. While this theoretically contributes to lowering the price, in the 21st century it does little.

Historically coffins were plain and simple; in a later section of this article, you’ll see how caskets rose to popularity because they looked nicer and fancier—a better place to lay someone to rest. However nowadays they’re really about the same in terms of padding, ornamentation, etc. (Am I starting to sound like Robert Frost, “Road Not Taken”?)

Six-sided coffins are harder to find in the states because of cultural preference and manufacturers prefer to produce the four-sided caskets.

coffin (hexagonal) with cross

If you’re interested in buying a coffin, look into green burial. Pine boxes and decomposable funeral boxes are more commonly coffins than caskets. Wicker coffins are another green option.

Transition From Casket to Coffin in the United States

Before the Civil War, coffins (both in term and shape) were the most common funeral containers by far. It was around the Civil War that death—as a consequence of the violence of the warfare—was seen as something that could be made to appear less brutal, final, and ugly. Early forms of mass production were also gaining momentum (to really pick up steam in the time of Henry Ford, 1910-20s), and rectangular caskets were easier to produce.

Caskets! A vile modern phrase, which compels a person … to shrink … from the idea of being buried at all.

Nathanial Hawthorne, 1863

There was a transition from coffin-shaped funerary boxes to more comfortable, less enclosing caskets. Pillows and lining became much more common, giving the impression the deceased is sleeping and not dead.

The word casket evolved as a euphemism for coffin around this time. There was a strong shift away from the word coffin in the US, as it was viewed as outdated, callous, and cold.

Since then, caskets have become far, far more popular in North America. Similarly, funeral homes as a business became more popular around this time.

See Encyclopedia Britannica’s article on coffins for a more comprehensive history.

Casket/Coffin Materials Evolution

Likewise, the material—formerly always wood—has evolved to include iron, steel, brass, and copper. Stainless steel is currently the most popular casket material.

Wood is still common, in a variety of types: Pine, Mahogany, Maple, Oak, Walnut, Cherry, Poplar. Veneer is also not uncommon.

Death In Early America, by Margaret Coffin

Death In Early America

For more information, consider reading this 1974 book by Margaret M. Coffin, addressing, “the history and folklore of customs and superstitions of early medicine, funerals, burials, and mourning”.

International Use of “Casket” & “Coffin”

Internationally, coffin has always been the word used to describe the funeral box (also called a funerary box).

It is said the term ‘casket’ first appeared as an undertaker’s euphemism for coffins in the United States. Nowadays, generally it is understood that the words distinguish the difference in shape (and historically, price).

In the past, coffin has been the general term for rectangular, trapezoidal, hexagonal, and any other casket/coffin shapes. Casket generally referred small boxes, such as a container for jewelry. Casket evolved from the English term coffer, after all.

Origin of the Word “Coffin”

Coffin Etymology Tree
  • Middle English (in the general sense ‘box, casket’).
  • Considered a “chest or box in which the dead human body is placed for burial” (circa 1520s).
  • Coffin was considered a “chest or box for valuables,” (circa 14th century) from Old French cofin “sarcophagus,” earlier “basket, coffer” (12th century; Modern French coffin).
  • From Latin cophinus “basket, hamper”, which became the source of Italian cofano and Spanish cuebano (“basket”).
  • From Greek kophinos (Ancient Greek κόφινος) “a basket,” which is of unknown origin.

Chart Credit: Google N-Gram Viewer (presence in books scanned by the Google Library Project). See Oxford Dictionaries and the Online Etymology Dictionary.

Origin of the Word “Casket”

Late Middle English: perhaps an Anglo-Norman French form of Old French cassette, diminutive of casse (see case 2).

Chart Credit: Google N-Gram Viewer (presence in books scanned by the Google Library Project). See Oxford Dictionaries.

Casket Vs. Coffin Word Use Over Time

Chart Credit: Google N-Gram Viewer (presence in books scanned by the Google Library Project).

FAQ

What’s the difference between a casket and a coffin?

Short and sweet, a casket is a rectangular box and a coffin is more hexagonal in shape. A coffin is designed to better fit the shape of people: wider at the shoulders and narrow at the feet.

Why aren’t coffins just rectangular boxes like caskets?

Someone once had the idea that they could build a smaller box to save money on materials. Because the shoulder of a (regular) person are wider than at the feet, historically builders of caskets have saved wood, metal, and other materials by removing the unnecessary space you’d find in a casket. It’s also cultural; in medieval Japan, for example, often people would be buried in round coffins made by coopers (barrel makers).

Should I buy a casket or a coffin?

As the primary difference is shape (and, to a small extent, price), it is largely based on your preference. While coffins are hexagonal in shape, caskets are rectangular. They are also far more common in the United States.

Does the deceased ever request a certain casket or coffin?

From my research, it hasn’t been widely documented, if it has ever happened. That said, I would expect is has been done.
If you have a certain preference for casket vs. coffin, or a specific casket in mind, leave a stipulation in your will similarly to how you would specific a wish to be buried versus cremated. Additionally, make sure your family and heirs know (and agree to) your wish, as often the will is not read or fully read until after the funeral.

Hawthorne’s full quote is “a vile modern phrase which compels a person of sense and good taste to shrink more disgustedly than ever before from the idea of being buried at all” (1863) (MA Paweł Migut, University of Rzeszów; c.f. Ayto 2000).

Conclusion

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